Hi. This is an important question. Part of the Rubik's cube of understanding porn induced dopamine addiction is to first understand and embrace some key concepts, that can be very confusing. Porn induced dopamine addiction is confusing because, especially for the guy who has just recognized the problem, and is trying to fix it, it looks like a sexual issue. One of the difficult, initial, concepts, and yet one of the most obvious, is: Porn is not sex, porn abuse is not the same as abusing sex for a dopamine hit; sex addiction is not porn addiction. It is true they both involve abusing the brain's dopamine reward center. But porn, unlike sex, even sex with a stranger, requires almost no effort. Close the door where your computer is, and, wallah, it is there. Sex addiction, at least acting on it, actually requires some effort. A sex addict gets off by searching for a partner, like a porn addict gets off for searching for the never before seen image. But, a porn addict can be successful in that search, every day, 100% of the time. I suppose a sex addict, who is willing to pay for it, could achieve the same result, but, again, the difference is ease of access. Though some porn addicts do pay for porn (I never did, because it is so easy to access), most porn addicts do not. In fact, if I had to guess, most sex addicts don't pay for sex, either, because a lot of that searching is about winning the prize, as opposed to paying for it. Winning it is part of the thrill.
To answer your question, I was probably a sex addict, at least a little, before I was a porn induced dopamine addict. Those two behaviors, for me at least, never overlapped. When I got hooked on porn I quit looking for sex, because the reason I looked for sex, though I did not know it at the time, was the dopamine high it gave me. When I could get that for 5% the effort, and free, any time, any place, actual sex became much less interesting to me. For the record, I never had a problem finding sex. The neurological term would be that I became "desensitized to actual sex." That, in turn, leads to sexual dysfunction, such as PIED or anorgasmia, or the inability to reach O unless with P.
I feel sorry for you if you have both problems, because I think that while they look similar, they are actually two, different, addictions, and are probably, to some extent, reinforcing.
My advice: Get the reboot in, get back to balanced, get back to normal. Then, clean, figure out who you really are, without porn being an example of who you want to be sexually. By the time most of us get hooked on porn, the porn we have to watch to get off is nothing like what we really see ourselves enjoying or engaging in.
