Hello folks,
I have read this forum about half year and not yet posting anything. So now I decided to write about my situation.
I?m 30 years old man, married and have couple kids.
I started MO when it was 13 and PMO at age of 14. In age of 16 it was doing PMO daily.
From age of 16 till recent year 2015 i have not thought that PMO is problem for me, i thought that i just had strong libido and because sex with my wife has been about once a month for years.
I have suffered ED about two years now and i have always blamed condom, being tired, or alcohol to be the cause. I still could get "semi-hard" on porn.
This ED thing got me worried. I could not perform with my wife, but i could PMO, so i start googling it and found site yourbrainonporn.com. After reading it and watching some of the videos i realized what the cause is.
After more reading and watching those videos, i realized more about me and my past life why it has been like it was.
My whole life has been about sex, wanting sex, chasing sex, thinking sex, watching sex videos and doing sex when i could get it. I have manipulated, used and played games on others just to get sex.
Because "only sex can satisfy me and my needs, only sex can make me happy". I have lived and devoted my whole life just for sex. In past relationships my only worry related to breakup was to not get sex anymore!!! And if i could not get sex i did PMO. And if i could get sex i did PMO anyway.
After realizing all this i felt really, really bad and sick.
I talked this situation with my wife and i said that I?m sorry about my past behavior and blaming her for of my own issues.
I also said that I?m sorry because i cannot control my urges and made her feel bad about herself not being interested about sex as much that i was.
...And I?m sorry that i have valuated our love and relationship in counting how many times we have had sex.
My first attempt to no MO or no PMO lasted 105 days and ended on binge of one my favorite fetish porn. I was doing PMO again twice per day for four days until i managed to cut off.
After relapse i figured that i had done it all wrong. I had just abstained from MO and PMO, but still continue to fantasying about sex with my wife and putting her on porn scenes in those fantasies.
I had only focused to cure my PIED and just waiting to have sex again to test hardness of my dick with my wife. And not to get my urges under control like it should.
I have been MO and PMO free about 4 weeks again. Withdrawal symptoms are much stronger than first time. I feel anxious, no joy, tired, deeply depressed, feeling to cry and suicidal.
But here i am, hanging by thought that my only way to succeed is to let go of sex. Let everything go that is related to sex. Until i'm back to normal.
Sex should not be mandatory to my existence, it should be something that i and my wife share to express our love and bond.
Thanks for reading
Johan
I have read this forum about half year and not yet posting anything. So now I decided to write about my situation.
I?m 30 years old man, married and have couple kids.
I started MO when it was 13 and PMO at age of 14. In age of 16 it was doing PMO daily.
From age of 16 till recent year 2015 i have not thought that PMO is problem for me, i thought that i just had strong libido and because sex with my wife has been about once a month for years.
I have suffered ED about two years now and i have always blamed condom, being tired, or alcohol to be the cause. I still could get "semi-hard" on porn.
This ED thing got me worried. I could not perform with my wife, but i could PMO, so i start googling it and found site yourbrainonporn.com. After reading it and watching some of the videos i realized what the cause is.
After more reading and watching those videos, i realized more about me and my past life why it has been like it was.
My whole life has been about sex, wanting sex, chasing sex, thinking sex, watching sex videos and doing sex when i could get it. I have manipulated, used and played games on others just to get sex.
Because "only sex can satisfy me and my needs, only sex can make me happy". I have lived and devoted my whole life just for sex. In past relationships my only worry related to breakup was to not get sex anymore!!! And if i could not get sex i did PMO. And if i could get sex i did PMO anyway.
After realizing all this i felt really, really bad and sick.
I talked this situation with my wife and i said that I?m sorry about my past behavior and blaming her for of my own issues.
I also said that I?m sorry because i cannot control my urges and made her feel bad about herself not being interested about sex as much that i was.
...And I?m sorry that i have valuated our love and relationship in counting how many times we have had sex.
My first attempt to no MO or no PMO lasted 105 days and ended on binge of one my favorite fetish porn. I was doing PMO again twice per day for four days until i managed to cut off.
After relapse i figured that i had done it all wrong. I had just abstained from MO and PMO, but still continue to fantasying about sex with my wife and putting her on porn scenes in those fantasies.
I had only focused to cure my PIED and just waiting to have sex again to test hardness of my dick with my wife. And not to get my urges under control like it should.
I have been MO and PMO free about 4 weeks again. Withdrawal symptoms are much stronger than first time. I feel anxious, no joy, tired, deeply depressed, feeling to cry and suicidal.
But here i am, hanging by thought that my only way to succeed is to let go of sex. Let everything go that is related to sex. Until i'm back to normal.
Sex should not be mandatory to my existence, it should be something that i and my wife share to express our love and bond.
Thanks for reading
Johan