Relapsed and DE is back

[Camouflage]

Good to hear that you have made such great progress bbkenpo! And in a relatively short period too. My situation (OP of this thread) is also still improving. I am on day 18 of my current NoFap streak. Yesterday I had sex in the afternoon with my gf, and I came easily. However, when we went for it again in the evening, I couldn't cum. I seem to have some kind of limit of 1 ejaculation per day... Anyone else have this? Do you feel that it is more difficult to orgasm, if you have had sex already that day?

It is interesting that when I was still fapping to porn, I could cum easily 3-4 times per day! But currently in sex I can do 1-2 max.

But oh well, I must be thankful because a year ago before my reboot I couldn't cum at all during sex! So rebooting without PMO has already done wonders to my sexlife.

 

[bbkenpo]

Wow, I am seriously jealous!  I can't wait till I assume that I can come every time and my concern is going a second time.  This is major progress.  With only 3 times I am just literally starting to think that maybe I am getting my brain to expect normal... When I have an O from HJ or BJ, I will literally be giddy!

 

[Camouflage]

Wow, I am seriously jealous!  I can't wait till I assume that I can come every time and my concern is going a second time.  This is major progress.  With only 3 times I am just literally starting to think that maybe I am getting my brain to expect normal... When I have an O from HJ or BJ, I will literally be giddy!

Thanks, I am indeed happy with my progress so far! I am sure that you will see further improvement as well, if you keep on rebooting. You already have very encouraging results.

Since you mentioned it, it is extremely hard for me to orgasm from HJ or BJ as well. I am curious, were you always this way or do you feel that it has gotten more difficult because of porn induced desensitization? I actually haven't even tried those for a long time. For me intercourse is easier, because I can control the pace etc.

Also I am not sure if I asked it before, but are you circumcised or not? I am not claiming it has necessarily anything to do with it. But I was cut tight as an adult, and I feel that it decreased my sensitivity a bit.

 

[bbkenpo]

Yes only one time when I was about 20 - I am 54 now, did I cum from a HJ or BJ.  That is the only time I remember.  But as long as I can remember I have M and the use of P grew with the internet. This is the first time I am going without P or M.

Yes I was circumcised at a very young age, and I don't think in my case that has anything to do with it at all.  Never had DE, not even close till my divorce. 

So looking forward to first time cumming from HJ or BJ.

 

[MagicStick]

I'm currently suffering from the same thing. I find it extremely hard to cum with my gf at times. Sensitivity is honestly gone although I can now feel temperature and pressure.

I can cum with great difficulty but I never orgasm anymore. Last night I was with my gf and I felt the blow job she gave me better than ever but I felt little physical stimulus other than what was mentioned. She got on top and rode me hard and I really couldn't even feel it.

Damn I'm jealous of her. I wish I could get back even 20% of what she feels.

And I got to say I agree with you camouflage. If I cum once I can unusually stay hard but going twice in a row is difficult if not impossible. I think I could get to that point but not until I can feel sex again. It seems like it's getting better. Still haven't had anything close to a full reboot and I see progress so long as I don't relapse so guess there is still hope.

 

[bbkenpo]

Please don't give up.  This is killing me and I want to M so badly to get a release, but I am not going to.  Let's all keep supporting each other.

 

[Camouflage]

I just want to update my situation, and give encouragement to other guys struggling with delayed ejaculation. I am on day 26 of my current nofap streak. I have been having sex regularly about 3 times per week (I only see my gf during weekends mostly). Today I had great sex without any problems. Erection was strong, and it was very easy to climax. In fact perhaps too easy, because my gf didn't quite get there in time. It was over 4 days since our last time, and I think that made cumming especially easy.

And this is coming from a guy who was pretty much anorgasmic (unable to cum) 2 years ago. Note however that this is not my first nofap streak. I did many streaks during last year, and I have been slowly getting better. A month ago I became overconfident and did a few PMO sessions. But I was shocked to find my DE problem returning. That's why I quickly started another nofap streak.

I am wondering whether I can ever go back to regular masturbation... At the moment it seems that I can't. I am also wondering if I could find a permanent cure by going "hard mode" (no release even from sex) for a couple of months. So far I have not been able to do that.

I still envy the guys who can do 2-3 rounds of intercourse during one day or even during one session. For me 2nd round is a challenge even after 6 hours of resting in between.

 

[MagicStick]

It's a struggle. No doubt Camo. Honestly have to say your posts and story has helped a lot.

Hate to say it but I think MO is out of the question for my life. I know that even without porn any amount of harsh stimulation just removes my erectile function for a week. Even sex is a little much.

Way too much abuse of a good thing for me. Would rather be with someone. It's just feels right even if I can't feel pleasure from sex.

 

[bbkenpo]

I just want to update my situation, and give encouragement to other guys struggling with delayed ejaculation. I am on day 26 of my current nofap streak. I have been having sex regularly about 3 times per week (I only see my gf during weekends mostly). Today I had great sex without any problems. Erection was strong, and it was very easy to climax. In fact perhaps too easy, because my gf didn't quite get there in time. It was over 4 days since our last time, and I think that made cumming especially easy.

And this is coming from a guy who was pretty much anorgasmic (unable to cum) 2 years ago. Note however that this is not my first nofap streak. I did many streaks during last year, and I have been slowly getting better. A month ago I became overconfident and did a few PMO sessions. But I was shocked to find my DE problem returning. That's why I quickly started another nofap streak.

I am wondering whether I can ever go back to regular masturbation... At the moment it seems that I can't. I am also wondering if I could find a permanent cure by going "hard mode" (no release even from sex) for a couple of months. So far I have not been able to do that.

I still envy the guys who can do 2-3 rounds of intercourse during one day or even during one session. For me 2nd round is a challenge even after 6 hours of resting in between.

Everyone can envy someone else.  I envy you.  I have had 5 times now that I have O without PMO.  This is a miracle and I am just so happy with that.  I look forward to my first O from HJ or BJ in over 25 years.  I won't believe it till it happens. 

 

[Camouflage]

You are going strong bbkenpo, just hang in there.

On day 33 of this nofap streak I was actually able to cum in my gf vag 3 times during a single day. We did it 2 times in the morning and once more in the evening. I can't even remember the last time this happened! This is just fantastic considering my background (a severe retarded ejaculation with many partners).

But I am still struggling. I have to Really focus during sex in order to keep going towards a climax. I can't just relax. Also the rounds 2 and 3 took a long time (too long for my taste). And HJ's and BJ's are still out of the question, which makes me feel like a freak, because my friends are always talking about BJ's and how awesome they feel. The last time I tried that I didn't feel anything and ended up losing my erection. But I am hoping that things keep on improving as I continue my reboot.

 

[bbkenpo]

Wow you are my hero... last night was the 7th time I have O in vagina.  This was the first time with her on top.  So that was amazing.  Like you I still have to focus because I don't trust it yet, but hell 7 times, that is no accident.  Also HJ and BJ are also out of the question and I can't wait till they work as well.  Thanks for the support.

 

[Camouflage]

Day 41 of my current nofap streak. This morning was a setback. We had sex with my gf, but I was not able to orgasm. The positive side is that we had sex yesterday evening also, and that time I came. And I have noticed that it is more difficult to get many orgasms in a short period of time. But I still feel bad about it, and I am tempted to finish by pmo. But what good would that do? Absolutely nothing!

I try to find encouragement from the fact that at least I am doing better than a year ago. But still... the sex today... I felt nothing inside her. It's So frustrating!!

My problem actually feels more physical than mental. It's like I have no feeling in my penis. The only physical cause that I can think of is my (adult) cicumcision. But other people don't seem to see that as a negative factor.

 

[YoungFire]

this sounds exactly like what i'm going through.

I relapsed today, and no doubt my DE has returned. luckily i went a whole 30 days, so i haven't ruined it all, ive just put myself on hold. i'm not stupid enough to enter a binge, so we continue.

 

[Camouflage]

I just wanted to report on my situation in case some people are still battling their delayed ejaculation problem. It is day 63 of my current nofap streak. I am NOT doing hard mode, because e.g. last week I had 6 O's from sex with my gf. But we also had one session that I was not able to cum. That means I am not fully cured yet. But I am pretty happy, because my situation has been a LOT worse. I'm not sure whether I should be having so many orgasms during my reboot, but I can't help it right now. I still feel that I have to focus really carefully if I want to reach climax. It is certainly not too easy.

I am also having an occasional ED with my gf, but I think that it is at least partly due to performance anxiety. We haven't dated very long, and I know that I can get quite self-consciouss sometimes. Actually I feel that anxiety may be a contributor to my DE problem as well. But I am going to continue with my nofap streak up to 90 days. I am hoping for permanent improvement on my delayed ejaculation problem.

I feel that nofap has increased my libido as well. Or maybe it's the sun (here in scandinavia we now have light after 6 months of winter darkness).