Hi, congratulations on your decision to stop porn. Reading your statement about your wife, please read below:
Now, in one sense, I get why some men think their wives are to blame. Pornography has the nagging habit of making a man feel like a man without requiring him to be one. Given enough time with porn, men can delude themselves into thinking if their wives were a little more _________, they wouldn?t touch porn.
I have five reasons for why this is a ridiculous argument.
1. Your wife?s so-called ?frigidity? is not the catalyst for your habit. In fact, it might be the other way around.
Perhaps there are men today who don?t touch porn until after they are married, but I have never met one.
Most men start their porn habits long before they get married; so to blame a woman for the habit is clearly mistaken.
Furthermore, in nearly every case I?ve seen, what men interpret as a woman?s ?frigidity? is actually a lack of initiative on the his part. A man might say, ?But I ask my wife for sex all the time.? To which I reply, ?When was the last time you really fostered an environment of romance in the home that would make your wife feel treasured and not just like a warm body??
Unfortunately, porn trains this belief into us: sex should be on-demand?as quick to boot up as my web browser. Healthy intimacy, however, takes time, attention, and devotion to maintain.
The whole article can be found here: https://www.lifesitenews.com/blogs/5-reasons-it-isnt-your-wifes-fault-that-you-use-porn