yesterday

[Loleekins]

We had a really good talk yesterday. For the first time I felt like he was being honest. We had a rough point. An item he really didn't want to talk about. He kept stalling, playing like he didn't understand my question. He understood just fine, he was buying time to muster up his courage. He eventually did, and it was fine. He always makes things harder than they need to be. *sigh*

His temper he still has a hard time with...llevarse el demonio lol. He's trying though. His eyes will flare, jaw clench, the hard breathing starts. He kept it in check though for the most part.

Progress I think. After the talk it felt okay. I think I felt good about his honesty most of all.

 

[Trustandnewbeginnings]

That is great Loleekins! Keep those lines of communication open, and take each day as it comes.

 

[Loleekins]

The communication is needed if he is to have a place in my son's life. He has much to change. He cannot fly off the handle in anger as he does with me. He cannot resort to physical violence as he does with me. He cannot live a life of lies as he does with me.

These are the things that destroy children.

We'll see what happens.

 

[Trustandnewbeginnings]

Loleekins, if there is physical violence in your relationship you need to get out of it in any way you can. Please, for your safety and the safety of your children. I have a family member who was a victim of domestic abuse, she said she knew for a long time that it was bad and just couldn't find the courage to leave, if she had let me or any of her family know about the abuse we would have gladly helped her. Please, find the courage you need, borrow it from a friend if you have to, go to a women's shelter, or even a church. Please don't let him beat you. No one deserves to be abused.

 

[Loleekins]

Thank you so much for your concern, tanb. You're a good hearted, caring person.

He hasn't put his hands on me in many months. He's been putting effort into anger management. For his own welfare as well as mine. I'm not a pushover gal, to say the least.

I appreciate your words so much. Thank you. <3

 

[Steam rolled]

Loleekins
I went threw the same back in the day 1st husband physical,mental & porn abuse
Back in those days things like anger managment didnt exsist that i was aware of.
But prison did and his abuse of me put him there for 1.5 years and it was out of my hands and
That saved my life him being taken away, I was stuck!
so Basically 10 years of my life with him was hell and a waste.
Though i have a son from that marriage thats the ONLY good i got, and he is a good kid
But very high strung and has trouble consintrating and very behind for his age as a adult.
Not sure if it all played a role but im sure something did, I cant imagine it couldnt.

So i really hope your SO going to anger managment helps and i wish you the best.
There has to be zero tolerance for abuse life is to short you dont want to have regrets like me along with scars and hurt bones.
Best wish from the heart.
Xoxoxox

 

[Trustandnewbeginnings]

Loleekins, I just wish you the best. You know your situation, I just wish you the strength to get out if it comes time before things progress. I'm glad he hasn't for awhile and is getting help.
It saddens me that you two ladies have been victims of domestic abuse. I've only ever had one boyfriend act like he was going to hit me, apparently my eyes went from green to ice blue and it scared the crap out of him. I hope I would have been strong enough to leave if things had progressed but that's something you never know until you are in that situation.