HELP!? I'm not addicted to porn but am with fetish?

[J07]

I posted the last week, but didn't get much help. But the more I read on this site I learn.

I was I a three year relationship with a girl who liked my fetish, (foot fetish and femdom etc.) and for te last three years it's all I've masturbated or had sex too. I am able to have sex with her, but I think it's because there's the underlying turn on of the fetish , because I associate with her.

The problem is with any new girl I am unable to perform, I'm not aroused by normal vanilla stuff. But I don't masturbate to porn because I know how bad it is.


Am I in the same situation as someone who is a porn addict or what?

Can someone please give me some help or insight on what to do??

 

[moviesrus]

Ok everyone has some fetish...footfetish is more common than u think...i think if you can use it to ur advantage during sex (i.e. ur partner is ok with it) then sex is even better! The problem can be that you start to focus too much on ur fetish during sex...which can be unappealing to ur partner in some cases. And if your partner/you are uncomfortable about it, then sex is not fun. I think the forum here is about ppl who cannot keep erection during sex. If you're able to do have sex and maintain erection till the end, then most ppl here cannot give a lot of advice. Addiction to fetish is in my opinion easily curable (or can be kept as is). But too much of anything is bad...applies to all things in life! One of the things I can suggest is that you take a break from sex for a while and keep yourself busy with scheduled work. Keep thoughts of fetish at bay and don't linger on past experiences with fetish.

 

[J07]

Ok everyone has some fetish...footfetish is more common than u think...i think if you can use it to ur advantage during sex (i.e. ur partner is ok with it) then sex is even better! The problem can be that you start to focus too much on ur fetish during sex...which can be unappealing to ur partner in some cases. And if your partner/you are uncomfortable about it, then sex is not fun. I think the forum here is about ppl who cannot keep erection during sex. If you're able to do have sex and maintain erection till the end, then most ppl here cannot give a lot of advice. Addiction to fetish is in my opinion easily curable (or can be kept as is). But too much of anything is bad...applies to all things in life! One of the things I can suggest is that you take a break from sex for a while and keep yourself busy with scheduled work. Keep thoughts of fetish at bay and don't linger on past experiences with fetish.

Thanks for the reply, is that the method for getting over a fetish? Do you think I should stop attempting sex with a girl I see? As it's not doing much for me?

 

[moviesrus]

Sorry for the super late reply. I'm not a psychiatrist, but I'm taking a guess to resolve your issue. Maybe you should HAVE more sex and learn to enjoy sex i.e. try many positions. I think once you're satisfied without focusing on your fetish, you'll start to think of it as a foreplay or something secondary. So, my advice is explore more sex positions. Learn to enjoy sex and the intimacy. And if you're not craving it after a good long break then maybe u need to get rid of fantasies from your mind