Had a bad day today but not a complete failure. I intentionally looked at p and m. Did not finish. I stopped and went to an appointment. This is the 1st time I pm'd in over 80 days. I think I just have a lot of energy and nervousness around my relationship. Things are going great with her for the most part. She is talking a lot about kids, marriage, etc. I am on board and in my heart feel the same way but am just not ready to make that commitment. I told her as much, that it will just take more time for me to be ready and she seems ok with that. I think I still am carrying shame around with me about all the years of pmo and self esteem/depression. There is something in me that 1. doesn't want to give up my freedom to come, go, and do as I please. 2. On some level I still think I am not worthy of love. Both are false beliefs because I hated the loneliness and isolation I felt before and she clearly knows my story and still loves me. No matter what the truth is, PMO is not the answer and will only bring me more pain. I still have not O'd in more than 80 days and hope to do so with the woman I love.