Hi everyone. This is my first post on here and my first day of hearing about porn addiction as a real problem and the rebooting method.
Background:
For the past six months, I have been struggling with anxiety and experienced a lack of interest in sex, resulting in my boyfriend, inevitably, watching more porn and masturbating more often. He advised me he masturbates 2-3 times a week and watches porn each time.
More recently, my libido has improved and my interest has increased which is great! When we begin to engage in sex together though, all he cares about is getting to the pentration, he rushes foreplay, has no interest in any intimacy like kissing or holding, and if I cannot have penetrative sex for some reason (soresness etc), then he is greatly disappointed and will not allow me to finish him off in another way.
This is a change in behavior as previously when we were having sex often, he would spend lots of time pleasuring me, it would be intimate, passionate, and didn't always have to involve penetration. I know this is linked to the type of porn he watches as he confirmed that, and admits that it may have a negative effect on him
But how can I speak about this in more depth without making it seem like I am telling him to stop or that it is his fault?
Background:
For the past six months, I have been struggling with anxiety and experienced a lack of interest in sex, resulting in my boyfriend, inevitably, watching more porn and masturbating more often. He advised me he masturbates 2-3 times a week and watches porn each time.
More recently, my libido has improved and my interest has increased which is great! When we begin to engage in sex together though, all he cares about is getting to the pentration, he rushes foreplay, has no interest in any intimacy like kissing or holding, and if I cannot have penetrative sex for some reason (soresness etc), then he is greatly disappointed and will not allow me to finish him off in another way.
This is a change in behavior as previously when we were having sex often, he would spend lots of time pleasuring me, it would be intimate, passionate, and didn't always have to involve penetration. I know this is linked to the type of porn he watches as he confirmed that, and admits that it may have a negative effect on him
But how can I speak about this in more depth without making it seem like I am telling him to stop or that it is his fault?