Will real sex ever be as arousing as porn?

[DonLorenzo]

Because especially after long absinence, even a small trigger can give you such a rush. So can anybody who has recovered 100%  tell me if real sex will ever be as fascinating and arousing? It just feels like porn will always give a bigger, much bigger rush...

 

[JG2690]

Dude IMO If you find a women that you're truly attracted to and have sex with her it will be better than "PORN" I have had successful sex in the months of me not watching porn and it felt really great! I think of porn like the matrix, we are not in touch with reality, think about it we are watching other people have sex and and we are basically the bench players instead of playing the actual game. Btw I know I haven't recovered 100% but I'm still fighting the good fight and from other people's post who have recovered 100% they have said the same thing.

Btw have u had sex in the 42 something days u gave up porn? I would suggest to talk to real women and see what happens.

Good luck bro!

 

[JKLIVIN]

Well, I wouldn't say I'm 100% fully recovered, but I have been porn free now for 14 months. I have acknowledged the fact that I am an addict and once an addict always an addict.

As far as the question regarding real sex being as fascinating as porn. Like JG2690 said, it is FAR better. That being said, I would not go have sex with a random stranger or prostitute. It's not the sensation of the sex itself, but the connection you have with another human being that is most powerful. To truly get the full experience of "sex" one must learn to change their mindset on what sex actually is. As an addict that spent years viewing porn, my idea of sex was what I saw in images and videos I watched. No one ever said no to anything.  This is NOT what sex really is. Sex is not just a physical act. Sex is being mentally present in the moment as well. Bodies will share chemicals, give off electric currents, these subtleties that you don't have when viewing porn. Porn gives us a surface rush. A quick hit of something good. True sex gives us a much deeper feeling. A longer lasting feeling. A feeling of connection. This should be the ultimate goal for everyone. Once it is experienced you won't want to go back.

Best of luck in your recovery. It is a long road, and definitely not an easy one, but it can be done. Let me know if you have any thoughts, or questions.

 

[DonLorenzo]

Okay good to hear that it gets better, thanks. I  am actually in a relationship with a stunning girl and i am able to have sex with/sometimes without viagra, but still, porn would arouse me more than real sex. There have been a few times after some small hardmode streaks that sex actually really arouses me but the fact is that porn is still more hardwired and "easier" than real girl. But I am sure things get better.

 

[ilovemyhand]

Yes and no. I'm quite sure that sex is MORE arousing to me now then my favorite porn genres were at the height of my addiction. The thing is though, I suspect that because of the reversal of the addiction-related brain changes being reversed by my abstinence, after a decent streak my favorite porn genre is much, much, MUCH more arousing then it ever was, and yes, also much more arousing then sex. In fact, it's scary; I remember that at the height of my addiction I could watch my favorite porn genres with a decent erection (sometimes better sometimes worse), but after a couple of months of P abstinence, if I put on my favorite porn genres, I will literally start uncontrollably shaking due to excitement, my heart will start pumping like I've injected 4 coffees worth of caffeine straight into my bloodstream and I go on autopilot that's IMPOSSIBLE to stop until I orgasm. In fact, once, after a long streak of P abstinence, I rolled up my favorite porn and came into my pants after like 2 minutes because of such a high level of excitement. So.. Yes and no

 

[DonLorenzo]

It sucks knowing that you could get a drug-like effect free from some pictures or videos but if you do it, you cant have sex and loose your libido.. but thats the same for any addiction. You can have intense pleasure from something and then you pay the price from it. Human brain is quite idiotic, we are not meant to feel a lot of pleasure from life, and if we do, it only lasts so long and then you have to pay it back.

 

[italianwanker]

Well, I wouldn't say I'm 100% fully recovered, but I have been porn free now for 14 months. I have acknowledged the fact that I am an addict and once an addict always an addict.

As far as the question regarding real sex being as fascinating as porn. Like JG2690 said, it is FAR better. That being said, I would not go have sex with a random stranger or prostitute. It's not the sensation of the sex itself, but the connection you have with another human being that is most powerful. To truly get the full experience of "sex" one must learn to change their mindset on what sex actually is. As an addict that spent years viewing porn, my idea of sex was what I saw in images and videos I watched. No one ever said no to anything.  This is NOT what sex really is. Sex is not just a physical act. Sex is being mentally present in the moment as well. Bodies will share chemicals, give off electric currents, these subtleties that you don't have when viewing porn. Porn gives us a surface rush. A quick hit of something good. True sex gives us a much deeper feeling. A longer lasting feeling. A feeling of connection. This should be the ultimate goal for everyone. Once it is experienced you won't want to go back.

Best of luck in your recovery. It is a long road, and definitely not an easy one, but it can be done. Let me know if you have any thoughts, or questions.

ah ah that bold resembles me this book/movie

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Christiane_F._%E2%80%93_We_Children_from_Bahnhof_Zoo