Hey guys i have had a foot fetish or what seems to be a foot fetish for as long as i can remember... My memory is telling that i liked feet before i started heavily watching porn. I use to switch it up from regular porn and foot fetish porn at the beginning however as time went on i stuck to foot fetish stuff and started mixing it with the domination stuff. Im not sure if my foot fetish is caused by porn or not. If im out and see a girl with nice feet ill catch myself looking. Also before i started my reboot 5 days ago my gf gave me a footjob (some how convinced her to try) and i enjoyed it. I have never tried to indulge in my foot fetish before the footjob. So basically im not sure if this foot fetish is real or not. Also would it hamper my reboot if my gf gave me a footjob or handjob as shes waiting for marriage to have sex
Foot fetish real or not
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Dharmabum
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Hey Arsenal,
Let me share what I understand from my own seemingly lifelong foot fetish and my porn addiction, which started in college. I remember having a thing for girl's feet as far back as elementary school. It intensified as I got older. I didn't date much b/c I was shy around girls when it came to romance (had a lot of female friends, but they were never romantically interested). Feet became a safer and safer fascination - something I could readily see, even touch, without actual sexual contact.
I fell into intrigue with porn later in my teens/early 20's. I sought out foot fetish and light domination videos/magazines, and I think access to porn just made my fetishes even stronger. It reinforced things because there was no healthy intimacy in my life. By the time I met my wife, I was already incapable of enjoying regular sex (she was my first and only partner). I still feel sexually damaged because I can't really get off without fantasizing about my wife's feet during sex, or some other similar fantasy. I can't be present because I've messed up the wiring in my head. Sometimes I go stretches where I am healthier, then I get comfortable and assume I can weave my kinks into my life again (mostly through fantasy and porn). The result is never good (PIED and stress in our marriage).
If the wires can get untangled, I think healing is possible. Still an addict, but at least thinking clearly. As of yet, I've seen how the wires can get untangled, but I haven't let them stay free. A lot of self-sabotage I guess. A lot of ego thinking I can handle a little porn with my normal sex life. I clearly can't. Most of us on this forum can't.
Reboots are healthy. Honesty is healthy. My wife has been kind enough to let me indulge in my foot fetish with her, so that helps...until I get to thinking I need to see other feet online. It's also difficult living in the South when women are practically barefoot for 8 months of the year. I work hard to keep my eyes up. Ironically, if I look at a woman's breasts it does nothing for me, so I have to take my eyes WAY up from the floor to their eyes.
Stay diligent. Make smart choices. Be honest with yourself. Earn your own respect and dignity.
Happy to talk more about this. I'm sadly quite the expert.
Let me share what I understand from my own seemingly lifelong foot fetish and my porn addiction, which started in college. I remember having a thing for girl's feet as far back as elementary school. It intensified as I got older. I didn't date much b/c I was shy around girls when it came to romance (had a lot of female friends, but they were never romantically interested). Feet became a safer and safer fascination - something I could readily see, even touch, without actual sexual contact.
I fell into intrigue with porn later in my teens/early 20's. I sought out foot fetish and light domination videos/magazines, and I think access to porn just made my fetishes even stronger. It reinforced things because there was no healthy intimacy in my life. By the time I met my wife, I was already incapable of enjoying regular sex (she was my first and only partner). I still feel sexually damaged because I can't really get off without fantasizing about my wife's feet during sex, or some other similar fantasy. I can't be present because I've messed up the wiring in my head. Sometimes I go stretches where I am healthier, then I get comfortable and assume I can weave my kinks into my life again (mostly through fantasy and porn). The result is never good (PIED and stress in our marriage).
If the wires can get untangled, I think healing is possible. Still an addict, but at least thinking clearly. As of yet, I've seen how the wires can get untangled, but I haven't let them stay free. A lot of self-sabotage I guess. A lot of ego thinking I can handle a little porn with my normal sex life. I clearly can't. Most of us on this forum can't.
Reboots are healthy. Honesty is healthy. My wife has been kind enough to let me indulge in my foot fetish with her, so that helps...until I get to thinking I need to see other feet online. It's also difficult living in the South when women are practically barefoot for 8 months of the year. I work hard to keep my eyes up. Ironically, if I look at a woman's breasts it does nothing for me, so I have to take my eyes WAY up from the floor to their eyes.
Stay diligent. Make smart choices. Be honest with yourself. Earn your own respect and dignity.
Happy to talk more about this. I'm sadly quite the expert.