I'm totally ruined but then everything is in my control

positive_beginning

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I'm again back  here after repeated attempts before.

I'm 30, PIED since at least 8/10 years. I was a very heavy masturbation-ist and then later exposed to P but not much.

But, my size is very less and my whole life has been affected because of my habit.

I will start afresh now and I know I will win.
 

malando

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Hi PB, I'm not sure if you are restarting your reboot or if you had a relapse yesterday. When did you last watch porn?

I didn't see you post that you got married, so if you aren't, is that still a possibility? Are you still in touch with her?

The reason I'm asking is because I think you are waiting too long to become "fixed". I think it is holding you back in your life. I think you shouldn't worry about how your dick is working and just move ahead with your life. If you love this girl and she loves you, just marry her. It seems like your culture works this way that you must decide to marry her anyway on order to have an intimate relationship with her. I think it would be so exciting for you, things would work out. Just make the commitment and do your best, don't look at P again. Your wife will be your excitement, you won't need anything else. She already loves you, the presser is less than it would be if you had to prove something to get her love.

Also, don't worry about your size. Women don't really care about that when they love somebody. My size is average, but my partner says it's perfect, just right for her. They adjust to any size. The main thing is to love them and make them feel good with what you are.
 

positive_beginning

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Thanks for your support malanda

Really appreciate

Well, since I went away from the website , I just become relaxed and was watching p for small duration from time to time (as I know sleep at my office with another freind )

Well, that girl fell out of love for me. It didn't helped me either. I went through hell for few months. She contacted me again but said, "you can try once more" . But not being judgemental, I feel she was very rude to leave me without any solid reason. She knew I loved her. Only because we had completed a year of dating, and I had not married her, she left me ruined completely as it was my only relationship. She hurt me a lot and I feel now its better to move on.
I really wish I can marry. As I've had a good network I will get proposals for marriage if I want to marry. But I really fear if the girl I marry will just not be able to understand my "disease" and make my life hell and damage my reputation. And thus, I'm now not focusing on getting a partner but on other relationships like freinds, family etc.



 

positive_beginning

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I'm doing good. From tomorrow for 1 month, I will be fasting and be busy with meditation and my activities.

I hope to be clean the whole month of june easily
 

positive_beginning

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I'm doing good on P  front. Sometimes, I get cravings but I don't have any access.

But I'm getting irritated, angry easily. I have to control my mind
 

positive_beginning

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I'm not getting those urges because I have chosen to block them and also I don't have time for them.
But I get trhose negative feelings that may be I have got kidney disease or that I can never be ok. But I say, it doesn;t matter if I can never be normal. I will be from this vile thing and not be a slave all my life. I will be very happy conquering this and taking control of myself.
 

positive_beginning

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15 days+

Time to celebrate

My loneliness hurts but got freinds now to help. No point sitting on past.

I'm getting better and have decided to work very hard and live a life that is bigger than I can imagine.
 

positive_beginning

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19 days seems great but i know the challenge is in forgetting everything from your mind, being liberated from the urges, begin to view female as humans and not objects - all of which is still there.
I'm exercising greater this month being a special month. But still I have all the ammunition to satisfy my dopamine urges - alone in office with internet and still not feeding my dopamine means I'm progressing and should not fear much but look forward to the journey positively.
Need to cut this crap out and I will win this time.
Don't know I will be well or not but I know I will win this time for sure. And I will never quit.

 

positive_beginning

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I had a wet dream yesterday. I am not thinking much of it as I can't control it. But I am not edging and going strong - being extraa cautious today.
 

positive_beginning

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I must share something which happened today...

I always wanted to do few things in my life and I began working on them. But never focused. And never got it till the end.

Today, I had a realization of my dreams and I felt them again. Felt inspiration from inside of achieving my goals.  I want to pursue them now and I will do it. This would be a great way to again defeat the monster.
 

positive_beginning

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21+ days, that is 3 weeks away from P

This is great going. I'm feeling more confident about myself, porn is becoming less important.
I'm now focusing on seeing woman as a human being and not a sex object. I'm finding it difficult not to notice hot girls on the road but then this is the challenge. I'm trying my best to avoid looking.It will require a commitment and I  have made words to repeat myself whenever I need to remind myself in front of my temptation.
 

positive_beginning

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It's becoming tough. Tired as hell all the time. Constricted chest. Urges for touching myself or stimulating by soft core P.
I fear I may fail again but I have so much at stake that I can't. Will fight this demon till my last.
 

positive_beginning

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This forum helps me a lot to stay focussed and thus as I get time I'm here

I'm feeling a lot happy that I have managed 30 days and I feel I'm getting used to this self discipline life

It was all about acting to the urges like I had no self control but now even I get the urge, I do self talking and kill the thought. I think this extra few seconds is the key.

Thanks for all the support and help. 30+ days is still a reason to celebrate !!!
 

positive_beginning

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Starting all over again. Fed my dopamine early in the morning as I saw MW.

I need to take each day as a challenge. Structure out the habits and block away time as I did while going for 40+ day clean. I can do it.
 
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