I finally MO'd after close to nine months and I have a new perspective.

[PresidentCoolidge]

So yesterday, I realized that I've been feeling kind of foggy for the past few days. Have some trouble sleeping, I felt mildly depressed and I was feeling some urges to look at questionable material on Facebook and Youtube. It then dawned on me that I haven't masturbated for almost nine months because of my reboot! I've only had about 10 wet dreams and orgasmed with the females a few times. Basically, I knew that I was coming along very well in my recovery and so I decided to try masturbating to see if it would make me feel better.

I did everything correctly; used lubricant, gripped my penis very lightly, and did not fantasize AT ALL! I just stared at my bookcase and tried to get aroused only by the sensation of my hand. It worked like a charm! I finished in less than a minute, when suddenly a gigantic amount of semen came shooting out like a civil rights hose! Free at last! Free at last! Thank God Almighty! Free at last!!! I felt so much relief. I'm honestly glad that I did it. I'm not going to do it again for a while, but I'm glad to know that I'm at the point where I can do it the way nature intended...without high-speed Internet porn. My sensitivity is restored!

Keep in mind that this has not ruined my progress, because I had MW this morning and I still feel great. Administrators on this site and on YBOP will tell you that they have no opinion on masturbation, only porn. Here's my opinion. I think that masturbation, without pornography, is very healthy for you, as long as you do not do it compulsively. Think about it, there are something like 100 different species of mammals who masturbate, so it's obviously natural. It's a natural depression reliever, it helps regulate blood pressure, it can help prevent premature ejaculation, and it can help you wire for the real thing. This is just my opinion. I don't think you HAVE to masturbate, as long as you have an active sex life. Most physicians who are serious will tell you that doing no-orgasm as a long-term lifestyle choice is unhealthy.

So, that's my take on it. I'm probably going to MO every once in awhile from now on (maybe once a month.) If I start having a more active sex life, I really don't see the need for it, however. And of course, I will always stay away from porn. Enjoy your Saturday.

Hope you found my opinion insightful,

C.C.

 

[fugu]

Honestly, I think going longer than 6 months without an orgasm might be overkill. I did nine months once and I felt much better after my first orgasm and wished I would of had it a little sooner. Felt a little mentally clearer and slightly higher libido.

 

[PresidentCoolidge]

Honestly, I think going longer than 6 months without an orgasm might be overkill. I did nine months once and I felt much better after my first orgasm and wished I would of had it a little sooner. Felt a little mentally clearer and slightly higher libido.

Yeah, man. My take on this is that abstaining from orgasm, for a period of time, is essential for regaining sensitivity. However, I do think masturbation is good for you so long as you are not getting laid 24/7. I've heard people say that it helps them in the sack, as far as getting aroused and lasting longer. The one factor in our lives that seems to complicate everything is porn.

 

[Vincent]

I completly agree with what you wrote, President
Masturbation is not the problem, the proble is why, how often and with whick goal we masturbate. Porn simply influenced both sexual and masturbational behaviour for the worse. There is nothing wrong with being tender to oneself if it happens outside of the porn realm.
So thank you for sharing your opinion after such a long PMO-free time.

 

[fnatk]

This is in my opinion excellent news

I indeed to stay PMO free for the 90 or 120 day reboot... and after that goal is complete I won't MO unless I've had intercourse with a woman. Obviously staying porn free for the rest of my life, but masturbation is something I will go back to, albeit in an extremely reduced amount!

The way you went about it seemed pretty much ideal! There's clearly light at the end of the tunnel

 

[DeltaFosAware]

Indeed Vincent the problem is not Masturbation but how it has influenced sexual response and sexual activity! You are so RIGHT, there is NO PROBLEM being tender to yourself! Self growth and self nourishment can be promoted by masturbation and that builds confidence and helps you in loving others. I found the problem was the porn starting a self destructive and self hating cycle.

 

[qrayzHD]

I completely agree that masturbation is not the problem, for how many years have men masturbated almost everyday and never has desensitization been such a problem. I think masturbation without getting aroused by imagery is completely safe.

 

[DeltaFosAware]

Too true Qrayz, this porn induced erectile dysfunction has become far more wide spread since the growth of high speed internet. I'm not suggesting that static porn was never a problem orvpossiblyba cause, but you dimply don't read research into our forebears generation being plagued with the problem. You'll find porngrahic images going back to Roman times and in fact they were quite public in Roman Villas. We have somehow managed to remove what I would call 'the hood earth' from sex and associate it with looking, rather than touching, feeling, acting, participating and loving. If we can restart that even with our own bodies, in our own minds, rather than as an on line visual image, we will begin to explore REAL sexuality again. The real thing is beautiful because of its earthy intimacy. It's even funny at times because our arses still fart and our joints stiffen. It's joyous because it is unscripted, no money shot, no lighting, no music and no fiction.

 

[qrayzHD]

lol that was a great post Delta and very true : )