93 days hardmode already but no libido or morning wood

[mylaststand]

I am at day 93 hardmode. I have no idea what to do at this point. Is it unhealthy to keep doing hardmode?

I'm 30, my main worry is that I don't have morning wood and also my libido is not back. When are this 2 going to coming back? I have mild depression and a bit of anxiety sometimes but overall I feel much better than before the reboot.

Relationships give me anxiety and I'm not sure if I want to go into one right now. I would first would like to get my morning erection back first. Do you know any tips to get the wood back in the mornings?

 

[willtochange]

I know this has to be a difficult position to be in, i would continue to push through and doing what you currently are. Everyone's flat line last a little longer than others from what i've been reading.

 

[Phase2]

I think an important thing you said was 'I'm not sure I want to go into one (relationship) right now.' I'd say listen to yourself. Your head is saying you're not ready, and your body (no libido) is saying it as well. Respect what your body is telling you.

It's amazing that you've made it to 93 days. And I know you hear a lot about this magic 90 number. But I think that is a very general number and it looks like for you, you need to be more patient and just continue moving forward.

I do think it might help to make some tiny steps towards rewiring. First I'd try to be more social with people you might be attracted to. Not even necessarily dates--that may cause anxiety for you--but more social things. Dinners with groups of people, volunteering, events, etc. Go slowly and build. With time you'll be ready for more: dates, holding hands, thinking more sexually and then you can start more intimate rewiring. I think the rewiring is what jump starts a lot of people out of flatline if they've been in it too long. Just be sure to go slow with it.

You're on the right path. Just stay the course, be patient and keep learning on youbrainonporn.com about the process. Good luck buddy!

 

[scorpion1386]

I think an important thing you said was 'I'm not sure I want to go into one (relationship) right now.' I'd say listen to yourself. Your head is saying you're not ready, and your body (no libido) is saying it as well. Respect what your body is telling you.

It's amazing that you've made it to 93 days. And I know you hear a lot about this magic 90 number. But I think that is a very general number and it looks like for you, you need to be more patient and just continue moving forward.

I do think it might help to make some tiny steps towards rewiring. First I'd try to be more social with people you might be attracted to. Not even necessarily dates--that may cause anxiety for you--but more social things. Dinners with groups of people, volunteering, events, etc. Go slowly and build. With time you'll be ready for more: dates, holding hands, thinking more sexually and then you can start more intimate rewiring. I think the rewiring is what jump starts a lot of people out of flatline if they've been in it too long. Just be sure to go slow with it.

You're on the right path. Just stay the course, be patient and keep learning on youbrainonporn.com about the process. Good luck buddy!

Would tiny steps toward rewiring be beneficial for anyone at anytime (not depending on how many days they've gone) during their reboot process?

 

[Phase2]

I'd say yes. Anything that moves you away from porn or porn substitutes is a good thing. You're trying to get your humanity back--so how can spending time with people you might be attracted to hurt? I'd just say, understand your situation and go carefully and do what feels right for you.

In my first few weeks of Reboot, I was kind of crazy obsessed with defeating porn and learning all I could. At that time, I don't think I needed any kind of rewiring at all as I had plenty on my plate and no room for distraction. Then I had my flatline and I just tried to welcome it and live with it while my brain healed. When I moved out of that, I felt ready for rewiring so my progress seemed pretty natural.

However, since then, after having sex, I have noticed I can go into a flatline after for a few days. It seems if I 'force the issue' with some rewiring or sex, my libido will return for it. So if you are the type who has spent, you feel, way too long in flatline--I'd try some rewiring to jump start the libido. Just go slow. Keep your pants on. 

 

[clamborne]

Sorry to butt in, but I'm coming up to six months of no PMO and I've been in a flatline the entire time. Don't put too much store by the 90 day figure, although I obviously hope you heal a lot quicker than me.

Interesting what you're saying Phase about rewiring, but what if you have absolutely zero libido? I just have no interest in anything remotely sexual, and its been this way the whole time I've abstained. At a bit of a loss as to what I can do to rekindle any kind of sexual ardour.

Which is also a catch 22, because on the one hand sex never crosses my mind whatsoever during the average day, but I can still find girls attractive (on some strange cerebral level) and want to be able to engage with them.

 

[Jones]

Hey Phase2,
                  I'm jones i was just reading your post

I'd say yes. Anything that moves you away from porn or porn substitutes is a good thing. You're trying to get your humanity back--so how can spending time with people you might be attracted to hurt? I'd just say, understand your situation and go carefully and do what feels right for you.

In my first few weeks of Reboot, I was kind of crazy obsessed with defeating porn and learning all I could. At that time, I don't think I needed any kind of rewiring at all as I had plenty on my plate and no room for distraction. Then I had my flatline and I just tried to welcome it and live with it while my brain healed. When I moved out of that, I felt ready for rewiring so my progress seemed pretty natural.

However, since then, after having sex, I have noticed I can go into a flatline after for a few days. It seems if I 'force the issue' with some rewiring or sex, my libido will return for it. So if you are the type who has spent, you feel, way too long in flatline--I'd try some rewiring to jump start the libido. Just go slow. Keep your pants on. 

I was wondering if i am 1 of those persons who need a jump start to get out of the flatline because i recently rebooted successfully and then i ended up watching porn and from that day i'm in a flatline up to now i don't get any sign i getting out (this happend a month+ days) still 0% libido i'm scared to even go near girls because of this problem and it also makes my dick smaller  :'(. Do you think something is wrong with me?,do i need a jump start myself for my libido to return?.It feels really fucked up to be walking with a dead dick.Whenever i'm on the road an i see some hot bitches i would fantasize about me fucking them and my dick would get erect but not full,does fantasizing helps to jump start my libido?
HELP ME PLEASE !!!!!!!!!

 

[Phase2]

Hi Clamborne. It's a tough call. On one hand you want your body to do what it needs to do naturally. But on the other, I sometimes think a little bit of a jumpstart is a good thing if you feel like you've been flatlining too long. Everyone's reboot is different on here.

Personally, I think a six month flatlline is long enough. If I were you I'd try some very low key rewiring. Do you have any friends you can confide with and help you out? Find someone to go on a date with or hold hands, or make out with? I was lucky, I had a buddy I could do that with but I realize it's not easy for everyone to find a willing partner.

It's admirable that you've gone this long with no PMO. Good luck, man.

 

[jocil]

How many wet dreams did you have in those 93 days?