DickPalmer
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I'm curious about this aspect of rebooting. I have a perception of myself through the porn use that I'm rather unemotional, however my psychotherapist has suggested I have a lot of emotion but just don't let it surface, that I have buried it. This might not be completely down to the porn use, but I've an idea it has helped to entrench it. I also know that I was less willing to touch or be touched, to show intimacy not just in a sexual way but in the act of holding hands, things like that. I found myself last night making a conscious effort to do so, which I know isn't good as it should be spontaneous, but again I have an idea that in some senses I am going to have to train myself to do spontaneous things until they do become spontaneous, if that makes sense.
Have any other rebooters noted a lack of emotion, natural empathy, etc, such as that described above? Did matters improve when you started to reboot. I am trying to work out, and again the psychotherapy may help, as to whether the causes of this have been made worse by porn, or if porn has desensitized me? I don't tend to think of women that I meet, in my workplace, etc, in a sexual way. I can tell they are attractive but a) I am married, albeit estranged from my wife (see my journal) and b) I don't objectify these women in the way some people might imagine a porn or sex addict would.
Have any other rebooters noted a lack of emotion, natural empathy, etc, such as that described above? Did matters improve when you started to reboot. I am trying to work out, and again the psychotherapy may help, as to whether the causes of this have been made worse by porn, or if porn has desensitized me? I don't tend to think of women that I meet, in my workplace, etc, in a sexual way. I can tell they are attractive but a) I am married, albeit estranged from my wife (see my journal) and b) I don't objectify these women in the way some people might imagine a porn or sex addict would.