My addiction started out like most other people's. I was about 12 or 13 and curious about sex. A friend told me about a porn site and I was hooked. The combination of adolescent hormones and the thrill of doing something I knew was wrong captivated me.
Soon I was sneaking into off to my parents' computer room every chance I got. I developed a tactic where I would get my parents to rent a movie for the family then sneak away knowing I had time for myself.
As high school started I spurned the advances of real girls for those on my computer screen. In college, I felt left out when all my friends were chasing girls while I sat quiet. After graduation, my friends all married their college girlfriends and I remained single. They have long given up on trying to help me since they think I'm asexual.
For some reason I never equated my loneliness and lack of desire with my porn use. Like any addict, I thought porn was part of the solution instead of the root of the problem. It seemed to always get me through the hard times when I was dealing with depression and anxiety issues. I stumbled upon this site and suddenly so much of my life now makes sense.
What has inspired me to change is that I recently started dating a girl I work with. She has a strong sex drive I can't meet. I've twice tried unsuccessfully to have sex with her, failing to get an erection each time. She says it's ok, but I don't want to lose her. I'm tired of missing out on so many good things that my addiction robbed me of. I don't want to add her to the list.
I stopped using porn about two weeks ago, but haven't noticed much improvement. Yesterday was the last time I masturbated as I am committed to quitting once and for all. I'm not one who asks for help, but I could really use the support of those who have recovered and those still in process.
Soon I was sneaking into off to my parents' computer room every chance I got. I developed a tactic where I would get my parents to rent a movie for the family then sneak away knowing I had time for myself.
As high school started I spurned the advances of real girls for those on my computer screen. In college, I felt left out when all my friends were chasing girls while I sat quiet. After graduation, my friends all married their college girlfriends and I remained single. They have long given up on trying to help me since they think I'm asexual.
For some reason I never equated my loneliness and lack of desire with my porn use. Like any addict, I thought porn was part of the solution instead of the root of the problem. It seemed to always get me through the hard times when I was dealing with depression and anxiety issues. I stumbled upon this site and suddenly so much of my life now makes sense.
What has inspired me to change is that I recently started dating a girl I work with. She has a strong sex drive I can't meet. I've twice tried unsuccessfully to have sex with her, failing to get an erection each time. She says it's ok, but I don't want to lose her. I'm tired of missing out on so many good things that my addiction robbed me of. I don't want to add her to the list.
I stopped using porn about two weeks ago, but haven't noticed much improvement. Yesterday was the last time I masturbated as I am committed to quitting once and for all. I'm not one who asks for help, but I could really use the support of those who have recovered and those still in process.