I watch porn at least 5 hours a day, and I need help

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MattfromHR04

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I've watched porn since I was 8 years old, and I believe I have a severe porn addition​

I have watched porn almost every single day for the past 11 years, I'm watching porn as I write this post. How can I overcome this addition or at the very least lessen my porn viewing. I try things like setting short goals for myself, like "tomorrow I will not watch any porn or touch myself" and when I achieve that short goal, I make up for that lost time the very next day watching twice as much as I usually do, not on purpose but I just can't help myself. On average I think I watch about at least 5 hours of porn every single day (unless I go out). When November comes around with the no nut November trend, I could last without finishing for about 3 weeks but then I go crazy. Whenever I am on a computer, there is always a window open for porn and I edge the entire day. This addition hasn't affected my life in any major way and I've always kept it on the down low but nevertheless is it a problem and I want to overcome this. I watch porn whenever I can, when I feel sad is when I view porn the least believe it or not. I need help.
 
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Chrisaaa7

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Hey man,
I think what could possibly help is maybe trying to masturbate without any porn, just your mind and fantasy, then once you go a week like that then I think you should cut down masturbstion. Some people can cut out masturbstion/ porn at the same time but for others it’s a lot harder. Personally for me it was pretty easy, once you find a purpose you are doing it for then it gives you the motivation to stop.
 
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MattfromHR04

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Chrisaaa7 said:
Hey man,
I think what could possibly help is maybe trying to masturbate without any porn, just your mind and fantasy, then once you go a week like that then I think you should cut down masturbstion. Some people can cut out masturbstion/ porn at the same time but for others it’s a lot harder. Personally for me it was pretty easy, once you find a purpose you are doing it for then it gives you the motivation to stop.
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Porn became 30% of media consumption for me, I always had alternate social media accounts I use to follow pornstars and porn communities. I have BitTorrent installed to download 1080p porn movies when I don't have wifi, even spent alittle money on onlyfans. I have external drives just for porn. Whenever I tried to quit, I would delete ALL of my porn off my laptop and install porn blockers on my browser and log out of my porn social accounts. Which is a great start, but the media is full of softcore porn that after a week of avoiding porn, I slowly get entranced into watching porn again because the internet gravitates toward it at every turn. I don't think I'll every hate porn, Its practically apart of my being at this point. but I do what to lessen the time I spend viewing it, by a large degree.
 
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96LostWanderer

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Further on the topic of content blockers, if you have a MacBook there is an app you can download called SelfControl. This allows you to block certain websites for a specific time period, and once you’ve set the timer there is no way to reverse it until the time is up. I’ve found it helpful.
 
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MattfromHR04

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96LostWanderer said:
Further on the topic of content blockers, if you have a MacBook there is an app you can download called SelfControl. This allows you to block certain websites for a specific time period, and once you’ve set the timer there is no way to reverse it until the time is up. I’ve found it helpful.
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Well crap, I dont have a macbook but that sounds like it'd be great
 
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vidvan13

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you need to understand what got you into porn, what kept you there. We are a bonding animal by evolution. If we are numbing ourselves out with porn, there must a be reason for why we are avoiding connection. You could read the book 'the body keeps the score' and see if you can pin down the reason. That is just the first step. But, that will give you immense courage to replace this 'habit' with a natural activity that can keep you interested. This will un-wire and re-wire you. Meditation, deep breathing and yoga will give you an avenue to calm down your brain and help regulate you brain activity. You can not just leave something which you are so habituated to. You need to know why it is there, what is it replacing, what you can replace it with, and the will to do it. This education is critical for a successful journey to recovery, I think. Good luck my dear friend. May you find what you are looking for.
 
Fappy

Fappy

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This addition hasn't affected my life in any major way
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yes it has! you mentioned watching 5 hours of porn a day. if thats not evidence of a pretty fucked up life then what is.
heres a reality check for you: you feel sad BECAUSE you watch porn. sound weird?
porn releases massive amounts of dopamine into the system - seek, pleasure, reward. this is what makes it addictive and extremely toxic. the very act of seeking out porn, the perfect video with which to thrash yourself to, actually releases more dopamine then the end result of the fapping!
after a while the dopamine reserves get fucked from the constant porn use, theyre left empty to the point where you cant enjoy anything other than porn. so what do you do? go straight back to porn to feel good again.
you do this for five hours a day. id say by now youre dopamine receptors are shot to shit.
but, its not all as bad as that. because now you know how much its fucked you up and destroyed your life and what to do to reverse that! you can get all those hundreds of thousands of hours spent fapping to pixels back if you rewire your brain starting now.
its sounds easier than it is to be sure, and you will relapse - maybe even a lot - but tis all part of the process.
porn doesnt make you feel good; it only tricks you into thinking you feel good while it gets its filthy claws in you and ruins your life.
 
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canguro

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Fully agree with fappy! I never understood what P really did to me until I read the book "your brain on porn". Try it! Understanding the addiction is a major part of overcoming it! (And it's not only about coping, but about neurochemistry, like fappy explained)
 
Ive Swornoff

Ive Swornoff

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You need to find other, constructive things to fill the void.

First, don't kid yourself. "Cutting down" ain't gonna happen without a major change in life outlook.

Is it fupping you duck? You wouldn't be posting here if it weren't. And trust me and others here, keeping it up will eventually make you unfit for any kind of relationship.

You need to make a decision. Do you want a better life? Do you want 35 hours a week back to maybe improve yourself by persuing more constructive ways to pass your time? To spend your life?

This is not a dress rehearsal, man. This is it. This is life. This is the time you get, and it's not infinite (as far as we know). At least not your time here on this planet.

Who do you want to be? What skills or hobbies does that guy have?

First, say "Stop!" No more. It's your only way out.

If you want to read my Gandalf schpeal, it's on my first post of my journal.

Then ... what ... INSTEAD?

I've been pushing The Art of Manliness website just because it's an easy place to start.... there are lots of things you can do though. I'd suggest at least a hobby. Pick up a guitar and learn three chords. Paint. Learn survival skills. Learn to make fire without lighters or matches. Learn to fix something. Or many things.

Read philosophy. Read books with meaning. Anything from LOTR to The Road Less Travelled. Learn to make something.

Anything ... constructive, either for you or for others.
 
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canguro

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Kid! XD You're funny... Let me guess, you are younger than 25 and you're life is boring and you have no chance with women because nobody likes you and that's why you waste your time here, am I right? Better join us, you can change your life, too!
 
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