misc person 86
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OK, so I think I'm out of flat line again. Had sex the other day... I was totally focused and in the moment, lots of kissing and passion. I focused solely on how she was touching me, the sound of her breath, her smell and the feel of her body. It was incredible... I was horny, hard and was passionate. I tried to not look at her body too much incase I started "viewing" her, which i believe is what I start doing if I start losing my libido/entering a flat line.
The good news about all this is that I've not orgasmed back in to a flat line like previously, as I'm still quite horny. I was ready the following day and this morning (though, she wasn't up for it... Damn - though, this will keep me on my toes whilst I'm working away for a couple of days).
My biggest streak of successful sex was 9 times over 2 weeks. I got ahead of myself and was considering a success story at 10... But somehow I messed up... I went in to a damn flat line and started trying to "turn my self on" more by looking at her explicit bits a lot when I felt my dick going soft... So I'm going to try do things a bit differently.
1. Not look at her body too much and keep focused on the less visual elements of sex. This I'm finding is great for rewiring.
2. Try limit sex to once a week for now. Probably won't happen because when my sex drive is high I find it hard to control it... I need self discipline with this because i know too much too soon WILL send me back in to flat line... So I must take it really slow... It's a blessing in disguise that I'm working away and my darling GF wasn't up for it this morning. OK maybe twice a week for now.
3. Plan when I go to the gym better. Probably unrelated, but i do heavy lifting and freaked out when I read about over working, cortisol and testosterone. I'll try to make sure I don't do a heavy leg work out on the day/day before possible sex. Might have nothing to do with it but who knows.
Goal:
I'm aiming to slowly beat my 9 sex streak without ED issues/flat line. I know recovery is non linear... But this would be a major confidence boost so it's important I manage it this time. Last time I was getting carried away and had my GF in sexy lingerie and all sorts... Lovely, don't get me wrong, but it did pull me in to focusing visually which I think was my downfall... If she does wanna get extra sexy I MUST, MUST remain focused on touch, feel and smell... Rather than start ogling over how nice her fanny looks in a sexy stocking suit. Doh!!!
The good news about all this is that I've not orgasmed back in to a flat line like previously, as I'm still quite horny. I was ready the following day and this morning (though, she wasn't up for it... Damn - though, this will keep me on my toes whilst I'm working away for a couple of days).
My biggest streak of successful sex was 9 times over 2 weeks. I got ahead of myself and was considering a success story at 10... But somehow I messed up... I went in to a damn flat line and started trying to "turn my self on" more by looking at her explicit bits a lot when I felt my dick going soft... So I'm going to try do things a bit differently.
1. Not look at her body too much and keep focused on the less visual elements of sex. This I'm finding is great for rewiring.
2. Try limit sex to once a week for now. Probably won't happen because when my sex drive is high I find it hard to control it... I need self discipline with this because i know too much too soon WILL send me back in to flat line... So I must take it really slow... It's a blessing in disguise that I'm working away and my darling GF wasn't up for it this morning. OK maybe twice a week for now.
3. Plan when I go to the gym better. Probably unrelated, but i do heavy lifting and freaked out when I read about over working, cortisol and testosterone. I'll try to make sure I don't do a heavy leg work out on the day/day before possible sex. Might have nothing to do with it but who knows.
Goal:
I'm aiming to slowly beat my 9 sex streak without ED issues/flat line. I know recovery is non linear... But this would be a major confidence boost so it's important I manage it this time. Last time I was getting carried away and had my GF in sexy lingerie and all sorts... Lovely, don't get me wrong, but it did pull me in to focusing visually which I think was my downfall... If she does wanna get extra sexy I MUST, MUST remain focused on touch, feel and smell... Rather than start ogling over how nice her fanny looks in a sexy stocking suit. Doh!!!