OldHornyGuy
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So, I have been doing quite a bit of reading about karezza and tantric sex and the like and just wanted to add my two cents.
First, I am not all that convinced that orgasm in and of itself is such a bad thing. I am totally not convinced that semen is such a vital fluid that if you let it out you will be "depleted." I feel like it is like snot, if you need more your body will make it. But on the other hand I find much to like about some of the ideas of karezza.
It was with my second wife that I came up with the idea of "naked bed time." Don't tell my current SO, she thinks SHE came up with the idea, and that is fine. My thought was and is that all couples should spend at least 15 minutes every day naked in bed together. The naked and together are vital, I guess it could be somewhere else other than bed. This is not about sex really just reconnecting and bonding.
My second and I were pretty good about this for the first couple of years of our marriage. After a while, in perhaps a karmic twist of fate, she stopped the practice. First she would come to bed in her jammies with her laptop and finally she started coming to bed hours after I fell asleep. She left soon after.
In terms of orgasm, I don't know if the the alleged brain effects are true, but I do know this, in lovemaking, orgasm signals the end. Play time is over, time for sleep (or whatever). Karezza has no set end point. It is like the difference between playing catch and having a baseball game. In the game, three outs and it's over. Catch? Maybe when your arm gets tired. Riding the wave for hours is quite wonderful.
The SO and I were talking about when we "started having sex," and she immediately said that "having" sex was a strange idea. "Doing sex?" she tried for a better verb. We finally came up with "playing sex," or even better, "sexually playing."
Karezza is what I am calling what it is we do, even though we don't buy into the whole philosophy. Our time together is a mixture of sexual and non-sexual touching. Sometimes we engage in pretty intense pleasuring activity and sometimes just lie in each other's arms. I avoid orgasm not so much to avoid "depleting" myself as I don't want play time to end.
First, I am not all that convinced that orgasm in and of itself is such a bad thing. I am totally not convinced that semen is such a vital fluid that if you let it out you will be "depleted." I feel like it is like snot, if you need more your body will make it. But on the other hand I find much to like about some of the ideas of karezza.
It was with my second wife that I came up with the idea of "naked bed time." Don't tell my current SO, she thinks SHE came up with the idea, and that is fine. My thought was and is that all couples should spend at least 15 minutes every day naked in bed together. The naked and together are vital, I guess it could be somewhere else other than bed. This is not about sex really just reconnecting and bonding.
My second and I were pretty good about this for the first couple of years of our marriage. After a while, in perhaps a karmic twist of fate, she stopped the practice. First she would come to bed in her jammies with her laptop and finally she started coming to bed hours after I fell asleep. She left soon after.
In terms of orgasm, I don't know if the the alleged brain effects are true, but I do know this, in lovemaking, orgasm signals the end. Play time is over, time for sleep (or whatever). Karezza has no set end point. It is like the difference between playing catch and having a baseball game. In the game, three outs and it's over. Catch? Maybe when your arm gets tired. Riding the wave for hours is quite wonderful.
The SO and I were talking about when we "started having sex," and she immediately said that "having" sex was a strange idea. "Doing sex?" she tried for a better verb. We finally came up with "playing sex," or even better, "sexually playing."
Karezza is what I am calling what it is we do, even though we don't buy into the whole philosophy. Our time together is a mixture of sexual and non-sexual touching. Sometimes we engage in pretty intense pleasuring activity and sometimes just lie in each other's arms. I avoid orgasm not so much to avoid "depleting" myself as I don't want play time to end.