BuddhaAwake
Active Member
Someone recently posted a question about whether to tell a new partner about his PIED. My situation is different.
I have been married for twenty years. My wife and I have not had sex in over a year or so (a fact I've used to rationalize my use of P). She is going through menopause, and I've been disabled with anxiety and bipolar conditions.
I tried giving up P on my own a few years back. When I shared this with my wife she was very hurt and felt that God prevented us from having children because of my P addiction.
I'm making another attempt to deal with this addiction through YBOP and Reboot Nation.
Should I tell me wife and have her be hurt and angry again? She has been very supportive of my mental health issues and is extremely overworked and over-stressed at her job.
Am I chickening out of discussing this this her, or is my concern valid? I feel bad reading YBOP and utilizing Reboot Nation behind her back, but is it fair to dump another problem/stressor on her? I can recover physically without her knowledge- as I said, we do not have a sexual relationship at this time.
Any insights would be greatly appreciated.
I have been married for twenty years. My wife and I have not had sex in over a year or so (a fact I've used to rationalize my use of P). She is going through menopause, and I've been disabled with anxiety and bipolar conditions.
I tried giving up P on my own a few years back. When I shared this with my wife she was very hurt and felt that God prevented us from having children because of my P addiction.
I'm making another attempt to deal with this addiction through YBOP and Reboot Nation.
Should I tell me wife and have her be hurt and angry again? She has been very supportive of my mental health issues and is extremely overworked and over-stressed at her job.
Am I chickening out of discussing this this her, or is my concern valid? I feel bad reading YBOP and utilizing Reboot Nation behind her back, but is it fair to dump another problem/stressor on her? I can recover physically without her knowledge- as I said, we do not have a sexual relationship at this time.
Any insights would be greatly appreciated.