Hi everyone,
I have finally come across this site and hope you can all be of help! I was quite late to the whole masturbation scene but when I finally found my feet I seem to have gone into overdrive, with the aid of porn this has just spiralled. Before being in a relationship (around 16yrs) I found vanilla stuff satisfactory, but this didn't stay the case for long. By the time I was in my first sexual relationship (18years) I was already looking for harder P to satisfy my needs.
That relationship came to an end, for many reasons but predominantly due to my lack of performance in the bedroom. Comments were made when we split up about me being gay and just not interested in straight sex. This really effected me at the time and meant 3 years passed before I attempted sex with another woman.
In this intervening period my use of PMO became insatiable with multiple times a day common place. The most disturbing part is that this has now taken on new heights to involved literature of straight guys in gay porn, only worsening my fears that my ex was right all along. This grosses me out and straight after PMO I feel guilty and repulsed, but I keep going back!
5 months ago I met my current girlfriend and everything outside the bedroom is fantastic, but I just can't play game after hours. I can sometimes get an erection whilst fooling around but the minute any hint that we are moving on and I lose it! So embarrassing! This coupled with the PMO is just killing me inside. I can already tell my girlfriend is starting to lose patience and I really don't want this to happen.
I have read on YBOP.com about HOCD and it has relieved me that these disturbing fantasies are all part of the addiction - but has this rung true with anyone else and have you moved on? I feel less of man and upset that I can't provide the most important part of a relationship.
Last night she stayed over and it all failed again. This lead to chaser PMO which made me feell sick and therefore the last straw. Found YBOP and linked to here - big start! Any advice is greatly appreciated!
30 day cold turkey will be step one!
I have finally come across this site and hope you can all be of help! I was quite late to the whole masturbation scene but when I finally found my feet I seem to have gone into overdrive, with the aid of porn this has just spiralled. Before being in a relationship (around 16yrs) I found vanilla stuff satisfactory, but this didn't stay the case for long. By the time I was in my first sexual relationship (18years) I was already looking for harder P to satisfy my needs.
That relationship came to an end, for many reasons but predominantly due to my lack of performance in the bedroom. Comments were made when we split up about me being gay and just not interested in straight sex. This really effected me at the time and meant 3 years passed before I attempted sex with another woman.
In this intervening period my use of PMO became insatiable with multiple times a day common place. The most disturbing part is that this has now taken on new heights to involved literature of straight guys in gay porn, only worsening my fears that my ex was right all along. This grosses me out and straight after PMO I feel guilty and repulsed, but I keep going back!
5 months ago I met my current girlfriend and everything outside the bedroom is fantastic, but I just can't play game after hours. I can sometimes get an erection whilst fooling around but the minute any hint that we are moving on and I lose it! So embarrassing! This coupled with the PMO is just killing me inside. I can already tell my girlfriend is starting to lose patience and I really don't want this to happen.
I have read on YBOP.com about HOCD and it has relieved me that these disturbing fantasies are all part of the addiction - but has this rung true with anyone else and have you moved on? I feel less of man and upset that I can't provide the most important part of a relationship.
Last night she stayed over and it all failed again. This lead to chaser PMO which made me feell sick and therefore the last straw. Found YBOP and linked to here - big start! Any advice is greatly appreciated!
30 day cold turkey will be step one!