I've been away from the forum for a while, been busy, and didn't really feel the need to post much. I had quite a difficult time with my addiction from the Christmas period to about two weeks ago.
Since then I managed a 16 day streak of abstinence, and here's an observation:
- When I was in the midst of addiction, I felt uncomfortable around people and triggered on strangers in the street all the time. I felt like less than a full person, like half a man. I craved solitude and didn't want to see my friends.
- After 2 weeks of abstinence I felt stronger, calmer, wasn't triggering on people in the street anywhere near as much, could control my triggers on things like facebook, and I felt like a full man. I felt useful.
I just felt better. I also felt more like seeing my friends.
Part of what helped me get this streak was an accountability partner. A friend of mine agreed to be my AP, so if I relapsed I'd tell her, if I was craving I'd talk to her, and she'd help me take my mind off it. She's been so helpful to me.
So last night I was so amazingly horny, but it felt more like horniness than cravings. I didn't look at any P, but I did fantasize about someone I know. Still, I think this process goes faster with abstinence, so I'm gonna try and get back on track regarding that.
I'm going to make sure to stay alert for the next few days, as I tend to get pretty bad chaser effects. Still feel pretty good today, but I'm gonna keep talking to my AP, and remember how much better I feel without P.
Strength and love.