JediMaster
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As for responsibility, first language or not, it's the same definition. By that definition, the addict is the sole cause of the partner's pain and feelings.
The addicted partner uses porn and most likely lies. The other partner says it makes them feel hurt, this that and the other. The addict is then the cause of all those feelings. If the addict wasn't an addict and never lied, the feelings wouldn't be there. How is it then, that the faithful partner is responsible for their own happiness when the addict is the one that took it away? All the partner wants is the addict to show they care. They want nothing else but for things to be ok, which in most cases they will never be the same but both partners can be very happy together if the addict takes responsibility for fixing the damage that THEY caused. "they caused" being the keywords that define responsibility.
The addicted partner uses porn and most likely lies. The other partner says it makes them feel hurt, this that and the other. The addict is then the cause of all those feelings. If the addict wasn't an addict and never lied, the feelings wouldn't be there. How is it then, that the faithful partner is responsible for their own happiness when the addict is the one that took it away? All the partner wants is the addict to show they care. They want nothing else but for things to be ok, which in most cases they will never be the same but both partners can be very happy together if the addict takes responsibility for fixing the damage that THEY caused. "they caused" being the keywords that define responsibility.