hard on my self
ready player one
coming to terms with my pain
coming to terms with my pain
I am drawn to computer games and porn because I believe i have anxiety issues
I say this because
1. i have a very fast and creative mind
2. i enjoy high speed sports
3. i am constantly bothered by self doubt
4. i am constantly bothered by thoughts of needing to escape
So games and porn are the optimum choices:
1. no need to deal with other's opinion of me
2. i always get what i want
3. i can enter and leave as i please
4. i am disconnecting from society
At the same time, reading about negative people, i also relate myself to one.
Yet, being more aware of my pain, i am realizing that my negativity is probably a manifestation of my pain.
1. I am hard on myself because I am not accrediting proper credit to myself
2. i am hard on myself because i have unrealistic expectations
3. i am hard on others because my lack of faith in myself translate to a lack of faith and trust in others
4. my anxiety and complacences and poor choice of escape also means i have poor world view. I am not appreciative of whatever i have
4. I developed hate, but hate is utterly unhelpful and counterproductive to EVERY aspect of life. Love builds and adds, hate decays and destroys. Hating another is akin to hating myself. This cannot continue.
I am drawn to the world of gaming and porn because I was seeking relief.
But they are like band aids over a wound that needs stitching
they never heal nor satisfy
and the wound continues to bleed and hurt
and everyday that passes that I do not address the real issues, adds to another day of hurt.
SO WHAT IS THIS ALL ABOUT ?
Knowing my problems will give me clues to what next steps i need to take.
Knowing what i really need is what can help me recover.
Going to porn is seeking acceptance and connection with people.
I need to find a healthy loving and stable relationship
Going to gaming is seeking success
Quick success can be found in doing alot and accumulating little wins as part of the collection towards an end goal. I need to know what my end goal is and work and be reminded of that
negativity is dissatisfaction with myself/my life
i need to come to terms with my reality and understand what is important
i need to stop living in fantasy and be able to adjust to the realities of the real world
i need to remember that i share this universe with others , that i cannot possibly live alone, and hating others only means hating myself, which only results in hurt.
i must be realistic
i need to stop being lazy, complacent and demanding of others to fulfill my expectations.
I am not sure about anxiety.
Is it because i am not prepared?
In that case perhaps being more prepared would be good.
perhaps adjusting to what will be will be will be good
perhaps recognizing that i am human and can never be perfect, and this is daily improvement will be good
i need to find a way to be fully immersive in what i am doing
i need to find a way to manage my jumping mind
i need to find a way to not be lazy and go through the process
In ready player one, the gamer expressed his love for her. She shot back that he doesnt know her at all, and all he has is his imagined vision of her. He does not know the reality of what she is going through or what is important to her.
This is exactly what i come to realize between myself and the one i loved.
I am that clueless fantasy minded dreamer gamer, having no idea what matters to her.
Only filled with my own dreams and unreality.
My love for her is real, but it exists only in my head.
it exists for my perception of her, not the real her.
and thus maybe my love for me only exists for my perception of me, not the real me.
Learning to love myself, is the greatest love of all.
Pain and discomfort are not bad things. They are there to tell me exactly what i need.