olafthewise
Active Member
To Lilred,
I see your frustration. I see and I note your observational conclusions of most men. Here are the unfortunate facts; men are visual creatures and there is something to be said about unlimited internet nudity for a young teen. I have been there. The availability of constant, numerous nude pics of beautiful women is very much like heroin. Some here would say it is exactly like heroin. "Once you take a hit you are hooked." The science of porn on a mans brain, or male teenager, is very specific. 3 or 4 things going on at once; dopamine---too much, too often, no breaks, no morality, no realism, etc. Lilred, I have learned that as much as I have found a way to reduce my porn use by 90%, I cannot transfer this knowledge to others. people have different bodies, brains, backgrounds, etc. I simply cannot help anyone unless they listen to my logic here and practice what I am telling them.
Telling guys that looking at nude teen girls is sick, does not motivate them for anything. I agree with you that some older guys would give a pretty teen girl anything, cash, gifts, etc, without her ever having to have sex with him. Some guys are just lonely and willing to spend money for non-sex companionship.
Reality is that most guys have no idea as to what is going on in their brain during porn viewing. They like it and succumb to its vises, as slaves in our modern world, willing to pay to stay entertained from porn and just like in the movie "the Matrix," they stay plugged in, unable to disconnect and be free.
This is reality. You can't save them all. Try to save as many as you can.
I see your frustration. I see and I note your observational conclusions of most men. Here are the unfortunate facts; men are visual creatures and there is something to be said about unlimited internet nudity for a young teen. I have been there. The availability of constant, numerous nude pics of beautiful women is very much like heroin. Some here would say it is exactly like heroin. "Once you take a hit you are hooked." The science of porn on a mans brain, or male teenager, is very specific. 3 or 4 things going on at once; dopamine---too much, too often, no breaks, no morality, no realism, etc. Lilred, I have learned that as much as I have found a way to reduce my porn use by 90%, I cannot transfer this knowledge to others. people have different bodies, brains, backgrounds, etc. I simply cannot help anyone unless they listen to my logic here and practice what I am telling them.
Telling guys that looking at nude teen girls is sick, does not motivate them for anything. I agree with you that some older guys would give a pretty teen girl anything, cash, gifts, etc, without her ever having to have sex with him. Some guys are just lonely and willing to spend money for non-sex companionship.
Reality is that most guys have no idea as to what is going on in their brain during porn viewing. They like it and succumb to its vises, as slaves in our modern world, willing to pay to stay entertained from porn and just like in the movie "the Matrix," they stay plugged in, unable to disconnect and be free.
This is reality. You can't save them all. Try to save as many as you can.