holycabbage
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BootLoader said:Hello my friend. I will advice you to stop thinking and fantasizing about sex and porn by any mean. All these stuff have nothing to do with reality(think about that, they are all fake) and sex with a partner. Trust me we/I did the same mistakes in the beginning. PMO has a little sister and her name is MO. MO activates the same pathways on the brain stop this habit. I started seeing big improvements when I stopped fantasizing about sex, it was really hard to stop sex fantasy but it came out normally after a long period of absence about anything related to sex.
Also I will advice you to watch all Gabe's videos on YT and read the book "your brain on porn".
I have watched all videos by Gabe, and Noah. They helped a lot. I've also read most of what yourbrainonporn.com has to offer. I don't fantasize as much, and when I do I'm usually quick to shut it down.
Si said:holycabbage said:it's best to rewire with a partner. Which I don't have.
Neither do I mate! Embrace it. Use it to your advantage. For me I'm not sure having a partner helped because I just got so sick of the up and down nature of libido. At least when I'm on my own and not trying to O I build up some decent hardmode and feel great for ages. Yes, I get sexually frustrated and usually end up having a WD, but hell... The fact I'd never had a WD at all until I hit 32 shows how badly I'd exhausted my arousal system. Just don't even think about women full stop right now until your mood improves.
My mood's a lot better than it has been. I've been seeing a counselor every couple weeks. Not about this, but more about life. I was thinking about bringing this up at our next session on Wednesday. I've also been thinking of doing another hard mode streak. Last time I made it 75 days. Right now I'm at 7.