Is playing ?hearts? with my family bad?????

C

chat-addict

Member
Hi.

I just had an expericence, that made me wonder.....
I am on day 16 in what I consider to be my last reboot ever.

I know from previous attempts that if I?d relapse right now, my muscles would tremble and shake at the moment I fired up the incognito web-browser.... I?ve been there, done that.. I know how it feels..

But tonight I played ?hearts? (a card game) with my wife and two children. Of course just as a family activity - and obviously no money involved. I?ve never gambled with money involved and I?ve never bought a lottery coupon, and I feel no desire at all to do neither. But playing regular games with my loving family is something that we all enjoy...

But tonight, I managed to ?hit the jackpot? while playing hearts with my family. Thus, I collected all the valuable cards, meaning I won big time over them. If I?d miss just one of the valuable cards I would have lost big time. So either I would win big time or lose big time. But I won. And when it was clear that I could not lose the game, I felt the well-known trembling all in my body - which probably means that a lot of dopamine was released.... It?s kind of silly, though. All I won was some fictive points on a piece of paper and the right to laugh at my wonderful family. In no way it should be anything close to how it would be to relapse to the addiction I?m escaping from.

Is this bad during a reboot? I was really frightened.... On one side, I realise that dopamine was released, but on the other hand... If I can?t play an innocent card game with my family.....

What do you all think about this??
 
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Numez

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This happens to me with monopoly. Every time I purchase a property I feel the trembling. When I purchase all properties of the same color and start building houses, my dick goes hard. I avoid hotels because that would be relapse. Accidentally I found out that limiting yourself to only houses is good tactic because there is limited number of houses and the more you build the less there are left for other players.

So to avoid relapse, don't buy hotels if you are into monopoly and don't involve money if you are into card games. Stay focused, 16 days is good start.

 
C

chat-addict

Member
Nikola -> Then I?d say that you are far worse off than I am.
It has never happened to me before - at least not while I?ve been learning about all this reboot-stuff. I don?t feel anything except for the regular ?I love my family?-joy when we play games. If I win a little or lose a little doesn?t do any difference as far as trembling and dopamine release is concerned.

I only experienced it this one time, when it came down to only two options: Either I would WIN everything or I would LOSE everything - there was no ?inbetween?.

 
S

sender

Active Member
Don't worry, you're fine.  Your brain's reward circuitry is more sophisticated than that; it turns out the dopamine response is specific, meaning one type of stimulus that releases a lot of dopamine won't cause you to crave all of them, just that one.  So if you're prone to gambling addiction, then maybe you'd want to look at this, but it won't affect your porn habit.
 
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