Day 97
I have been sans internet for weeks now because my ISP is the worst. But it is finally up and running again. I had some pretty big moments over the past few weeks that I am very proud of. I was sorely tested and I came out on top each time, which has helped to boost my confidence.
Incident 1.
I was left at home alone, no wife and kids, for the first time in a very long time 5 or 6 weeks ago. For old me the sound of the front door being closed as my wife left the house would have pretty much sent me straight into a porn spiral. But I managed a whole afternoon on my own without incident. A first in a very long time.
Incident 2
Once, when I was ordering some hardware for my PC, I included a 64GB flashdrive in the purchase with the intention of using it as a porn stash. Which I did, I loaded it nearly full with all my favourite videos and then encrypted it. Every now and again I would revisit it when I needed a climax. It was my little treasure trove. Then, I lost it about 6 months ago. I was pretty broken up about it at the time, partly because I was worried someone else would find it (Although, I knew it was pretty well encrypted) but mostly just because it represented a huge investment of time and effort on my part to collect and stash all that porn and, like I said, it was all my favourite scenes. Well, a few weeks ago, the flash drive turned up again. It had slipped into a tear in the lining of my laptop bag. I pulled it out and then faced a serious dilemma. As I said, it represented days of collecting and refining porn material. It was also my backup, in case I decided to "take a break" from this reboot thing. I managed to beat down the nagging voices in my head and proceeded to format the drive and give it to my wife to store whatever TV series she is currently watching on. It was hard at the time, but it makes me feel really good when I think about it now.
Incident 3
In a similar vein to the second incident, I had a desktop computer that I had to put into storage for a while. Then, a few weeks ago, I had to get some files off it and set it up and copied the files across onto a portable drive. While I was doing this I decided to clean the computer up. This was my main PC for years, and had a huge, huge database of porn stashed on it. I tried to scan the porn folder it for size, but gave up after it went well past the 100GB mark. I had to open the folder to get one or two things out of there that were not porn, and was faced with thousands of folders I had created for the pics I kept there (I was obsessed with collecting porn pictures, it was basically my only hobby for 20 years). I even felt that familiar excitement I used to get when I though about diving deep into a porn binge. It hurt more than I thought it would to delete that folder, it represented countless hours of my existence, but I did it.
I am now completely porn-stash free. All my old folders are gone, my porn-stash harddrives have been formatted and re-purposed for clean stuff and my new laptop remains, to this day, untainted.
It was difficult each time, but the rewards after the fact have been great, and it has really boosted my self-confidence and will-power.
The one thing I have learned from previous failed attempts is that f you keep any kind of "back-up" stash, just for emergencies or whatever, you will always eventually go back to it and then the porn spiral will start all over again. A clean break is the only way.