There could be several reasons why he doesn't want to touch you beyond hugging.
- When I was using I had no desire to be intimate with my girlfriend, beyond hugging. Even kissing was unpleasant for me. I was disgusted with myself so I committed to another reboot at the start of the year.
- During my reboot I have had no desire to be intimate with my girlfriend, beyond hugging. Even kissing had been unpleasant for me. I'm on day 244 of my reboot and I was only able to get an erection and have sex for the first time during the whole 244 days last night!
I write this because my reaction towards sex was the same when I was using
and when I was flatlining/recovering (I'm not fully recovered by any means). Therefore, it's probably difficult to know if he's stopped using porn or not.
One problem with male sex toys (I assume you mean masturbators) is that if he is rebooting then he probably needs to stop masturbating during his reboot. Sex toys feed into the whole porn problem in the fact that it's artificial. If I think about sex toys I think about porn. That
might be something you need to be concerned about.
I am a recovering porn addict and I've never bought sex toys for solo sex. I've bought sex toys in the past to use with a partner. I really can't comment
if most guys have them. However, I would imagine that men who are into masturbating to porn
might buy such things.
He might be using male sex toys because he
knows he can't get aroused with a real flesh and blood woman but his brain demands its dopamine hit. In short, he has PIED.
Porn is shit! We don't want to be porn addicts and I'm sure that most of the men on this forum sincerely regret the pain they've caused their partners. I certainly regret the pain and anguish I've caused my partner, which is why I have committed to beat this addiction once and for all. I'm sorry to read about your story. I've seen what my addiction has done to my girlfriend. Your partner needs to come clean, he doesn't need his male sex toys if he's committed to rebooting and he needs to start reading the reports from other addicts like myself on this forum, if he hasn't already done so.
I wish you the best of luck. Sorry I can't offer more constructive advice.