If you have read my posts, then you have a pretty good idea of what is happening to me. Now, I am only one person, so I don't know how it might apply to you. I said in one of my early posts that I was having sex during my reboot because, basically, as long as I am with Karen, I don't care how long a "full" reboot takes. Because like your SO, when things don't work right, she doesn't mind at all. We have had a few times where intercourse was pretty much impossible -- we did other things and she was fine. There have been times where I had unintentional DE, and she didn't seem to mind that either.
There are still plenty of areas where I am not happy with my performance, but I am 110% sure that she would not agree with me one bit.
So, I would say to you what people have basically said to me...if you and your lady are fine with whatever happens in bed -- go for it. If you have times when "it doesn't work right" no big deal, don't lose any sleep over it, she certainly won't.
That being said, I would (and to a large extent, I have been) avoid porn altogether, even if she were to want to watch it together. I would not do anything that disassociates you from your lady.
You might find that you recover more quickly if you don't MO, so maybe, try not MOing during your times apart even on the phone. I took a couple of weeks off from regular orgasm and it seemed to help the recovery move along. In my case, she really doesn't like it when I "hold out" on her, so I have been orgasming with her. I don't think it set me back, but I do feel as though it has slowed my forward progress and I do feel a bit of a hangover in that the urge to peek is returning when I am not with her.
You've got a good thing going. Talk to her, be honest about your feelings and where you are at and I am pretty sure things will work out fine.