Remington.22
Member
Hello fellow warriors,
If I may I'd like to offer some more words of advice for the struggling. (Did something similar here a couple of weeks ago: http://legacy.rebootnation.org/index.php?topic=16419.0) Tell someone.
A BIG part of this addiction's power over us lies in the personal and private nature of sexuality, whether healthy or deviant. Sex just isn't something that comes up in polite conversation, and rightly so. It is largely private, but that very fact is a support pillar for this addiction. I lived for decades with no one knowing about my addiction but me, thus we sit, stew in our own juices, suffer privately all the while becoming more disgusted with ourselves.
Talking it over with e-friends is good, but its not the same as IRL, face-to-face interaction. When we open up & tell people we rob the addiction of one of its powers. I'm almost to 9 months 100% pron-free; at lunch with a friend yesterday (who had no idea about my secret) we were talking about our marriages and I just came out with it "Matt, I've been a porn addict for years but finally kicked that demon out of my life once & for all earlier this year. I'm completely done and totally victorious over it." ...and the conversation continued. I can now just come right out with it and put it on the table. You've no idea how liberating that is! Its such a non-entity in my life that now telling people is no big deal. Every time we tell someone we stick another dagger in the demon's heart.
If you're still living a completely secret life, open up the closet door. Its not easy but tell someone. A friend, a sibling, an elder at church, whatever. Take that power back.
If I may I'd like to offer some more words of advice for the struggling. (Did something similar here a couple of weeks ago: http://legacy.rebootnation.org/index.php?topic=16419.0) Tell someone.
A BIG part of this addiction's power over us lies in the personal and private nature of sexuality, whether healthy or deviant. Sex just isn't something that comes up in polite conversation, and rightly so. It is largely private, but that very fact is a support pillar for this addiction. I lived for decades with no one knowing about my addiction but me, thus we sit, stew in our own juices, suffer privately all the while becoming more disgusted with ourselves.
Talking it over with e-friends is good, but its not the same as IRL, face-to-face interaction. When we open up & tell people we rob the addiction of one of its powers. I'm almost to 9 months 100% pron-free; at lunch with a friend yesterday (who had no idea about my secret) we were talking about our marriages and I just came out with it "Matt, I've been a porn addict for years but finally kicked that demon out of my life once & for all earlier this year. I'm completely done and totally victorious over it." ...and the conversation continued. I can now just come right out with it and put it on the table. You've no idea how liberating that is! Its such a non-entity in my life that now telling people is no big deal. Every time we tell someone we stick another dagger in the demon's heart.
If you're still living a completely secret life, open up the closet door. Its not easy but tell someone. A friend, a sibling, an elder at church, whatever. Take that power back.