Yo Kitty,
you remember what I wrote in the PM? In this stage of your reboot, you only have to worry about one thing which is staying away from PMO. Don't worry about sex, don't worry about dating, don't worry about anything else but abstaining from PMO. Let your brain do the healing, let your brain regulate the dopamine receptors back to normal, and then you can worry about the rest. Your emotions will come back, your masculinity will come back, and your confidence will return. Let me tell you this, I once was PMO-free for 120 days and my level of operation was through the roof. I was effortlessly able to ask for a girl's number who I fancied at the time, I was easily able to go on a date with her (talk about a fish outta water, something I hadn't done in more than 10 years), and I left a very good impression on her. Without even trying too hard. It all just came naturally. Just give it time, good things are bound to happen, you gotta trust me on this.
About the wasted years, I'm in the same boat. I'm 31 years old, only had sex twice and it was horrible because I was barely able to perform. Not counting the countless times I left the girls sad and confused because I wasn't able to get it up at all. Crushing to say the least. I wasted all my youth and all my twenties in regards of sexuality. I will never be able to have this exciting and innocent sex teens have and I couldn't explore my sexuality like "normal" twenty-somethings can.
You know what's ironic? At the end of highschool we had a year book. And beforehand all pupils of my year were asked different questions, like who will be the most successful person, who was the prettiest person, who was never seen in school, and so on and so forth. And one question was, with which person would you like to have sex. Now guess, who was number one in that category. Yes, it was me. By a large margin. And now guess, who hasn't had any sex with anybody. Yes, it was me... It crushed me during that time, because apparently there were a plethora of pretty girls who secretly wanted to have sex with me... And I had no clue. Maybe, it was for the better because you and me both know that I wouldn't have been able to perform anyways.
But you know what? It's all in the rear-view. There is no chance of rolling back the time and change things. Focus on the present. What you do now defines the outcome of your future. Pretty simple. There is no point in being sad about the past, because you cannot change it. There is literally NOTHING you can do about it. So don't dwell on it, because if you do, it will catch up on you, make you sad, make you bitter and nothing good has ever been a result of it.
There is plenty of good sex to be had in your remaining thirties, even in your fourties and fifties. Maybe even the sixties and seventies ;D. You get the idea...
So please, do yourself the favor and just focus on the task at hand. About the rest, you can worry later.
Hope it helps.
Take care!