39 days in.
Tomorrow I'll become living proof that this movie
http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0243736/?ref_=nv_sr_4
...is shit.
It took a lot of thinking, reading, watching motivational videos and thinking some more to get me back on my feet, again. Last 3-4 days were my worst. I felt like I failed. I didn't, but really felt weak and like I lost my drive and motivation to go on.
A lot of stuff crossed my mind, of which the most unsettling was the 'Why and how did it all start?" question.
I'm not talking about the reasons for being addicted to porn and PMOing for so many years to weirder and weirder stuff. No.
I'm talking about
susceptibility to addiction.
I know a lot of people who watched porn, but did not get addicted or developed any dysfuctions. I couldn't put my finger on why they don't have the same or similar kinds of problems as I have. Sure, some of those people, who are close to me enough to talk about this stuff, may be lying when they say they have perfectly healthy sex lives, but I've personally seen some of my friends having sex with my own eyes and they were just fine. No erectile or ejaculatory issues...
Why was I the one who got the shitty end of the stick? Was I doing something different than those guys, while growing up? What did I do wrong?
Ok, I get that at some point in my life I became infatuated by porn. I get that, by looking at it, I started masturbating (at a very young age). I also understand that the more I looked at it the more I jerked off, harder and harder and as a result I have DE. That still doesn't explain why was I susceptible to get hooked on it.
It's the susceptibility to addictions. It has to be it. Nothing else fits. If it isn't that, well then, every guy who watches porn would be an addict or none of us would be. It's like people who try all sorts of drugs, but don't get hooked on them. I smoked a lot of marijuana in the past, but have been able to quit easily, unlike some people I know who completely burnt out, mentally. Or like trying cigarettes, but not becoming a smoker.
I very strongly believe that we are not using porn because we're addicted, but that we are addicted to porn because someyhing in our lives is...off, crooked and not right.
This notion is of gargantuan proportions, because it suggests that we as addicts have issues that are far deeper that sexual. I, personally, find this unsettling because I started with MO/PMO very young. Before I could think straight. Now I have to dig THAT deep to find out what is wrong with me?
Shit.
Anyway, another day another rambling, but I have a feeling I'm onto something here.