The Unhappy Fapper
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Day 19 - 5/10
Today was a so-and-so day.
I slept pretty well last night. No BS dreams about the 36-year-old or nothing. But i still woke up feeling shitty. Some morning wood and some fantasies but nothing great.
I got to work at the usual time. No cute girls loitering around to strike up a casual chat with. Bummer.
During the course of the day, i had this weird feeling of latent negativity underneath everything. These last two days, i have felt a sense of increasing positivity but today it took a dive. But, when interacting with people, my more extroverted, outgoing side came out and it felt empowering.
I saw girl from Day 17 (a very pretty photographer who is very modest about herself) briefly in the corridor. We acknowledged each other - another bummer as i hoped she would stop for a chat. In the past, i would have overreacted and taken this personally - "Obviously she doesn't like me enough to remember me" type thing. Today, i just let it go. Hell, i would have loved to have proposed marriage to her there and then but that I guess that may have been a bit much
During the course of the day, i had urges again to look at porn. I also found myself unconsciously assuming the fapping position in my chair and grabbing my crotch. I was completely unaware i was doing it. Luckily i put an end to it as soon as i did become aware.
This afternoon, our workspace had a small drinks reception. In the past, i would have avoided this type of scenario to scurry off home to my dark fap cave but not this time. Anyway, about five people turned up including me and two girls. We had a nice chat among us, told some jokes and again, the extroverted side of me came out - that hunter instinct. It was an amazing feeling.
Then, when that all ended, the thought of going back to an empty apartment and spending an evening alone made me very depressed. As soon as i got in, i dumped by stuff and decided to head back to the park to do some training.
While there, i did feel very depressed. All these pretty girls walking around, couples out with their kids, people laughing - eh, the regret. So i went and did some body-weight dips and some chin ups. While on the chin up bar, this little kid - about 8 years old - came up to me and said he wanted to train with me. So, i lifted him up and helped him do 5. I gave him a High 5 at the end and he said 'Thank You Mister!' and ran off. Man, it made me think of my old man and me and wanting my own kids. I felt happy at helping the young man but sad about not having my own son.
Having done a decent work out, i walked home. But, i had promised myself i would not leave there without talking to at least one girl. Not being brave enough (yet) to do a cold approach, i did the old "Hey can you help me to find my AirBnb?" routine on two very cute girls who were just there nattering. To my surprise, they were very warm. One offered me a French Fry and flirted with me with these amazing blue eyes of hers. I felt the hunter instinct again but couldn't quite figure out how to wrap it up. Anyway, despite that, this simple event for me was like Armstring landing on the Moon - i have never been this type of guy in my life; you know, the guy who goes up to random broads and says whatever and could care less about the outcome, rejection and all. One small step for a [recovering] fapper, one giant leap for all [recovering] fapkind.
I must keep working at this because the sociability aspect has always been where i have failed at recovery in the past i.e. reach Day 40 and, balls bursting with creamy goodness but noone to share it with. I don't want a hooker; i want someone who likes me and who i like.
I feel exhausted right now - emotionally and physically. One step at a time.
Today was a so-and-so day.
I slept pretty well last night. No BS dreams about the 36-year-old or nothing. But i still woke up feeling shitty. Some morning wood and some fantasies but nothing great.
I got to work at the usual time. No cute girls loitering around to strike up a casual chat with. Bummer.
During the course of the day, i had this weird feeling of latent negativity underneath everything. These last two days, i have felt a sense of increasing positivity but today it took a dive. But, when interacting with people, my more extroverted, outgoing side came out and it felt empowering.
I saw girl from Day 17 (a very pretty photographer who is very modest about herself) briefly in the corridor. We acknowledged each other - another bummer as i hoped she would stop for a chat. In the past, i would have overreacted and taken this personally - "Obviously she doesn't like me enough to remember me" type thing. Today, i just let it go. Hell, i would have loved to have proposed marriage to her there and then but that I guess that may have been a bit much
During the course of the day, i had urges again to look at porn. I also found myself unconsciously assuming the fapping position in my chair and grabbing my crotch. I was completely unaware i was doing it. Luckily i put an end to it as soon as i did become aware.
This afternoon, our workspace had a small drinks reception. In the past, i would have avoided this type of scenario to scurry off home to my dark fap cave but not this time. Anyway, about five people turned up including me and two girls. We had a nice chat among us, told some jokes and again, the extroverted side of me came out - that hunter instinct. It was an amazing feeling.
Then, when that all ended, the thought of going back to an empty apartment and spending an evening alone made me very depressed. As soon as i got in, i dumped by stuff and decided to head back to the park to do some training.
While there, i did feel very depressed. All these pretty girls walking around, couples out with their kids, people laughing - eh, the regret. So i went and did some body-weight dips and some chin ups. While on the chin up bar, this little kid - about 8 years old - came up to me and said he wanted to train with me. So, i lifted him up and helped him do 5. I gave him a High 5 at the end and he said 'Thank You Mister!' and ran off. Man, it made me think of my old man and me and wanting my own kids. I felt happy at helping the young man but sad about not having my own son.
Having done a decent work out, i walked home. But, i had promised myself i would not leave there without talking to at least one girl. Not being brave enough (yet) to do a cold approach, i did the old "Hey can you help me to find my AirBnb?" routine on two very cute girls who were just there nattering. To my surprise, they were very warm. One offered me a French Fry and flirted with me with these amazing blue eyes of hers. I felt the hunter instinct again but couldn't quite figure out how to wrap it up. Anyway, despite that, this simple event for me was like Armstring landing on the Moon - i have never been this type of guy in my life; you know, the guy who goes up to random broads and says whatever and could care less about the outcome, rejection and all. One small step for a [recovering] fapper, one giant leap for all [recovering] fapkind.
I must keep working at this because the sociability aspect has always been where i have failed at recovery in the past i.e. reach Day 40 and, balls bursting with creamy goodness but noone to share it with. I don't want a hooker; i want someone who likes me and who i like.
I feel exhausted right now - emotionally and physically. One step at a time.