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wecandoit

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Day 4

I had urges today. Not strong but present. I definitely need to stop wasting streaks. Just when I start feeling better I fuck it up. This needs to end. For what I want to accomplish in my life, porn addiction has no place. And I'm fucking stressed. This makes it even more difficult. I'm going through a tough period.
 
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wecandoit

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quitforeverthenwin2 said:
Sorry to hear that man. This is difficult stuff, you are being persistent and you'll get it eventually
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Thanks.
 
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wecandoit

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Day 6

Urges are pretty strong. Fantasies and porn flashbacks are the hardest part. They keep the craving high.

 
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Jeks

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Good job on making it 6 days.
You know how it works. Dont touch, dont fantasize, dont peek, watch out for triggers. These are cravings, similar to any other drug. When the urges are getting strong, try grabing a pillow and dont let go of it, like its a life threatining situation. Try listening to gabe deem, noah church and gary wilson, so your mind is busy with helpful things to overcome the cravings. Try napping, so you stop thinking about it. Try all these things together. Im sure you already know, what works for you. Just wanted to give you some input, what worked for me, when you are desperate.

Stay strong, you wont let this addiction take your life away from you.
 
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wecandoit

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Jeks said:
Good job on making it 6 days.
You know how it works. Dont touch, dont fantasize, dont peek, watch out for triggers. These are cravings, similar to any other drug. When the urges are getting strong, try grabing a pillow and dont let go of it, like its a life threatining situation. Try listening to gabe deem, noah church and gary wilson, so your mind is busy with helpful things to overcome the cravings. Try napping, so you stop thinking about it. Try all these things together. Im sure you already know, what works for you. Just wanted to give you some input, what worked for me, when you are desperate.

Stay strong, you wont let this addiction take your life away from you.
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Thanks for advice.
 
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wecandoit

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Day 7

Strong urges again. The fantasies and flashbacks are the most fucking annoying thing ever. It's suffocating. Porn is the most dominant thing in my mind. I think about porn all day long and the thing is that I don't want to think about it, I don't plan to think about it but I could be sitting somewhere and without realizing I am watching porn in my head.
 
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Jeks

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When it comes to fantasizing addicts are like dogs and fantasizing about porn and sex is like a rabbit hole. Once you start to scoop around in it, you will loose yourself in it, until you might not come out of it and relapse. The deeper you go, the harder it will be to find a way out. So as soon as you see the rabbit hole you have to look away and avoid the temptation to go in there as soon as possible by looking at somewhere else.
So in other words, when you are becoming aware that you are fantasizing, once you allow yourself to go into it, you start loosing yourself in the rabbit hole. So as soon as you become aware of yourself fantasizing, youve got to look away. Look around at your surroundings. When you see something, a chair for example, start thinking about a chair. Start thinking about wood, start thinking about trees. Start thinking about what else you can do with trees, until you passed the rabbit hole. When you allow yourself to go deeper into it and you pass a certain point, you wont be able to find out again.

Or, when you able to, try to think about something else ( to imagine how your life will be, when you are done with this shit for example ) or try to do something, that gets your mind elsewhere. Meeting with friends, who know about your condition and dont judge you for your mood you have at the moment can be really helpful. When you are with someone, there is much less mind space left for fantasizing
 
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wecandoit

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Jeks said:
When it comes to fantasizing addicts are like dogs and fantasizing about porn and sex is like a rabbit hole. Once you start to scoop around in it, you will loose yourself in it, until you might not come out of it and relapse. The deeper you go, the harder it will be to find a way out. So as soon as you see the rabbit hole you have to look away and avoid the temptation to go in there as soon as possible by looking at somewhere else.
So in other words, when you are becoming aware that you are fantasizing, once you allow yourself to go into it, you start loosing yourself in the rabbit hole. So as soon as you become aware of yourself fantasizing, youve got to look away. Look around at your surroundings. When you see something, a chair for example, start thinking about a chair. Start thinking about wood, start thinking about trees. Start thinking about what else you can do with trees, until you passed the rabbit hole. When you allow yourself to go deeper into it and you pass a certain point, you wont be able to find out again.

Or, when you able to, try to think about something else ( to imagine how your life will be, when you are done with this shit for example ) or try to do something, that gets your mind elsewhere. Meeting with friends, who know about your condition and dont judge you for your mood you have at the moment can be really helpful. When you are with someone, there is much less mind space left for fantasizing
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Thanks, man. Thanks for advice.
 
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wecandoit

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Day 3

I feel like shit. I don't manage to stop fantasizing in the morning.
 
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Paul96

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wecandoit said:
Day 3

I feel like shit. I don't manage to stop fantasizing in the morning.
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Hi, man! I have the same problem with morning flashbacks. The best solution for me so far is to put your alarm clock away from bed as far as possible. This will make you walk across the room to turn it off. As a result you will wake up way easier. This helps me a lot on weekdays. All my relapses occured on my day off when i can't bring myself to wake up with alarm :). Also i've seen some cool alarm clocks where you need to solve a puzzle or mathematical test to turn it off. Try to find one.
I hope everything will be good on your way to recovery.
Good luck man!
 
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wecandoit

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Paul96 said:
Hi, man! I have the same problem with morning flashbacks. The best solution for me so far is to put your alarm clock away from bed as far as possible. This will make you walk across the room to turn it off. As a result you will wake up way easier. This helps me a lot on weekdays. All my relapses occured on my day off when i can't bring myself to wake up with alarm :). Also i've seen some cool alarm clocks where you need to solve a puzzle or mathematical test to turn it off. Try to find one.
I hope everything will be good on your way to recovery.
Good luck man!
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Thanks for advice, man. It's the fucking arousal in the morning that gives me cravings for edging and fantasizing. If I don't get up, I don't have a chance to stay away from it and it sucks when I have to get up early on my free days.
 
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wecandoit

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This streak is the streak. The magic one. I'm sick and tired of failing. I am sick and tired of what this addiction does to me everyday. I will do everything it takes, even giving up things if they interfere with my streak. I'm writing this now and I could even write it everyday if this motivates me to do it. I mean, when was the last time when I had a solid streak? That's right! My best lately is ~10 days? Come on, man! You can do better than this.
 
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