Day 125
Thanks Zander, hope you're doing well too!
Well over four months without porn has been a great thing personally. It's been remarkebly easy to be honest, after my wife found out it's been smooth sailing in the porn-free department. It kind of made the earlier years silly, since I was unable to stop then. It took a big shock for me to actually get rid of it, and it worked. I'm doing well myself, feeling better due to cutting out porn of my life, physically fit and I'm finding that I'm more appreciative of my surroundings.
Our relationship is still faced with difficulties however. Not neccesarily my actions, but the constant lying about it has done so much damage. The most important part of a relationship is trust, and that's still broken. I can't 'un-brake' that, I can't undo what I did, all I can do is better now. I'm fully aware that this process of rebuilding trust will take time and hard work, just sometimes it seems too difficult for her to trust me. I could look her straight in the eyes and just lie, it just disgusts me how easily that was for me. Hiding the addiction seemed easier than just admitting it and working together to fix it. I hold on to the fact that we've both said that we truly want this relationship to work, in the long-term that's the goal. Just sometimes in these bad moments it seems really difficult to stay positive and keep working. I'm trying, I just hope things will be better.
Next to that I got laid-off again. Just when I found my rhythm at work they couldn't justify my position anymore. I'm motivated to take some new courses and develop myself professionally. It's just been a downer that the decision didn't seem to make much sense from any point of view. Other than that I haven't been able to see my family for 8 months, since I live in another country. I'd like to go there but in these times travelling is just difficult and I'm a bit uncomfortable with it.
Lots going on, at times it feels a bit overwhelming. I guess this journal isn't so much anymore about the porn addiction, but more about my personal mess. I'm trying to deal with all these things and just hope for improvement. I've messed up so much in the past couple of years, the consequences had to come sooner or later. It gets tiring but it's my own fault, I'll stay positive and keep going forward! I have to keep the goals in mind.
Thanks Zander, hope you're doing well too!
Well over four months without porn has been a great thing personally. It's been remarkebly easy to be honest, after my wife found out it's been smooth sailing in the porn-free department. It kind of made the earlier years silly, since I was unable to stop then. It took a big shock for me to actually get rid of it, and it worked. I'm doing well myself, feeling better due to cutting out porn of my life, physically fit and I'm finding that I'm more appreciative of my surroundings.
Our relationship is still faced with difficulties however. Not neccesarily my actions, but the constant lying about it has done so much damage. The most important part of a relationship is trust, and that's still broken. I can't 'un-brake' that, I can't undo what I did, all I can do is better now. I'm fully aware that this process of rebuilding trust will take time and hard work, just sometimes it seems too difficult for her to trust me. I could look her straight in the eyes and just lie, it just disgusts me how easily that was for me. Hiding the addiction seemed easier than just admitting it and working together to fix it. I hold on to the fact that we've both said that we truly want this relationship to work, in the long-term that's the goal. Just sometimes in these bad moments it seems really difficult to stay positive and keep working. I'm trying, I just hope things will be better.
Next to that I got laid-off again. Just when I found my rhythm at work they couldn't justify my position anymore. I'm motivated to take some new courses and develop myself professionally. It's just been a downer that the decision didn't seem to make much sense from any point of view. Other than that I haven't been able to see my family for 8 months, since I live in another country. I'd like to go there but in these times travelling is just difficult and I'm a bit uncomfortable with it.
Lots going on, at times it feels a bit overwhelming. I guess this journal isn't so much anymore about the porn addiction, but more about my personal mess. I'm trying to deal with all these things and just hope for improvement. I've messed up so much in the past couple of years, the consequences had to come sooner or later. It gets tiring but it's my own fault, I'll stay positive and keep going forward! I have to keep the goals in mind.