worth_it
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Days 25-27
Hey! So 27 days in, which is one of the biggest achievements of my life. Wow, I did not think I would make it this far, I just thought this forum would be good to complain about how hard it is to get past two weeks but here we are! To recap, the last few days have been challenging at moments but I've continually been pushing through. I had a few tempting moments on the 25th, but those were just general moments where I thought about looking up stuff but didn't do anything. Not too strong of temptations. I'll tell you though, yesterday the 26th day, I had a 10 minute stretch where I was sure I was going to give in. My wife had left, and even though I had mentally prepared for her to leave, I was caught off guard. I watched a TV show (I am still doing lent and no TV, Youtube, internet entertainment, but we have 1 day a week where we can watch TV) and right after I felt extremely triggered. For the first time in a while I thought "wow I could definitely just click a few buttons and get onto the videos I used to watch". It freaked me out. I immediately looked at a couple of P recovery websites and then prayed and that helped a lot. Then I had a dream last night that I relapsed, and in the dream I felt all the regret of relapsing, it felt awful. I never really processed about that today, but it sucked. I woke up and for a second thought I relapsed yesterday, but fortunately I didn't. Today was pretty solid other than that. Had a sabbath and just went on a drive and saw beautiful nature, played music and sang worship songs. Then got home and made food and listened to a podcast and hung out with my wife. Super solid day. Unfortunately, an hour ago I was very tired and was scrolling through emails and tried to find something that might include a photo of a sexualized woman. I did click on an email with a sexualized woman, and fortunately she wasn't like close to naked or anything. Pretty normal photo of a pretty woman and it was almost just like model photography. However, I know stuff like that is just not good for my brain. It may not exactly be peeking, but I am sure it slows down recovery since it probably activates similar brain pathways. I really need to stop doing that, because I have found that junk emails with dating ads are one of my biggest temptations these days since it isn't "technically" P. Honestly, I just need to stay off of email since I rarely have emails that are important outside of my work email. I will say I'm happy about 27 days, but I get so down at night time, feeling like I'm hopelessly addicted. I need to spend more time in prayer over my nights, because I'm sure my wife will be gone at night eventually and I want to be prepared for the trigger. All that frustration aside, I am so excited, because tomorrow will be one month exactly since I PMO'd last. Sure, it's sort of a cheap month since February is so short, but I think this will have been far and away the healthiest streak I've ever experienced. Let's keep it going!
Hey! So 27 days in, which is one of the biggest achievements of my life. Wow, I did not think I would make it this far, I just thought this forum would be good to complain about how hard it is to get past two weeks but here we are! To recap, the last few days have been challenging at moments but I've continually been pushing through. I had a few tempting moments on the 25th, but those were just general moments where I thought about looking up stuff but didn't do anything. Not too strong of temptations. I'll tell you though, yesterday the 26th day, I had a 10 minute stretch where I was sure I was going to give in. My wife had left, and even though I had mentally prepared for her to leave, I was caught off guard. I watched a TV show (I am still doing lent and no TV, Youtube, internet entertainment, but we have 1 day a week where we can watch TV) and right after I felt extremely triggered. For the first time in a while I thought "wow I could definitely just click a few buttons and get onto the videos I used to watch". It freaked me out. I immediately looked at a couple of P recovery websites and then prayed and that helped a lot. Then I had a dream last night that I relapsed, and in the dream I felt all the regret of relapsing, it felt awful. I never really processed about that today, but it sucked. I woke up and for a second thought I relapsed yesterday, but fortunately I didn't. Today was pretty solid other than that. Had a sabbath and just went on a drive and saw beautiful nature, played music and sang worship songs. Then got home and made food and listened to a podcast and hung out with my wife. Super solid day. Unfortunately, an hour ago I was very tired and was scrolling through emails and tried to find something that might include a photo of a sexualized woman. I did click on an email with a sexualized woman, and fortunately she wasn't like close to naked or anything. Pretty normal photo of a pretty woman and it was almost just like model photography. However, I know stuff like that is just not good for my brain. It may not exactly be peeking, but I am sure it slows down recovery since it probably activates similar brain pathways. I really need to stop doing that, because I have found that junk emails with dating ads are one of my biggest temptations these days since it isn't "technically" P. Honestly, I just need to stay off of email since I rarely have emails that are important outside of my work email. I will say I'm happy about 27 days, but I get so down at night time, feeling like I'm hopelessly addicted. I need to spend more time in prayer over my nights, because I'm sure my wife will be gone at night eventually and I want to be prepared for the trigger. All that frustration aside, I am so excited, because tomorrow will be one month exactly since I PMO'd last. Sure, it's sort of a cheap month since February is so short, but I think this will have been far and away the healthiest streak I've ever experienced. Let's keep it going!