Thank you Redalc, killing it as always with the encouragement and prayer. You give me advice when I don't feel like I have the energy or will power to, so thank you.
Day 43
Today was okay. Morning went well, work went pretty well, went by pretty fast which is nice. Kind of a boring day as I look back on it. Near the end of my shift, I was on slack (it's like a work platform to communicate and message others, super helpful when working from home) and looking at people's profile pics, and I stared at a girls profile pic and definitely checked her out, then looked at her picture again later. It felt like looking up P but I know it's 100x less damaging than the actual thing. Still made me feel pretty bad for doing something like that. I had pretty strong urges to give up and look at stuff today but my wife was home all day so praise God haha.
I just feel pretty down today. I feel off emotionally and physically. Mentally I honestly feel pretty alright, other than temptations I feel pretty sharp, but the emotional and physical sides don't help me do well mentally. I just feel kinda down. I have times like this, where I'll get melancholy. Not sure it's anything like depression since I'm pretty sure I experienced that in high school and it was so much worse. But it still sucks my energy, I don't feel very joyful, and life isn't so exciting. I feel like this is the point in the battle when winners are made, as cheesy as that sounds. I know that I could probably keep doing well with PMO if I was always doing great and super positive and had awesome energy. But being able to go through a time where I'm sad? That's super hard mode, and gonna build character.
43 days in, this is not a new thought, but here's what I think: I think rebooting and rewiring and abstaining are all about building new ways to handle negative feelings. Before this, when I felt stressed, when I felt angry, when I felt lonely or tired or anxious or hurt or melancholy, PMO was the escape. That was my answer to most of my negative feelings. Now, I have to build brand new ways of handling these feelings and it is very hard. Even painful. But slowly, slowly, I'm learning. Journaling, playing music, singing, talking to my wife, praying, worshiping, reading, hanging out with friends, going on walks, listening to music or podcasts, enjoying good food (like a home cooked meal or a quality restaurant), just staring outside and observing trees and birds and nature in general, exercising, going on drives. Mindful activities that help me to take in the moment and just enjoy. I can't wait until I'm at the point where those things really are my body's new way of handling challenges. For now, I keep pushing until that's the case. I have to keep going here, 44 days is tomorrow, then day 45, pretty soon after that it'll be day 60 which will be such a big milestone.