jonazo91
Active Member
I've mentioned to my girlfriend, almost a year ago I think, that I've "been trying to quit porn." I only really brought it up because she was having a tough time quitting Juul (she succeeded, because she's fucking awesome) and I wanted to relate with her on some level, that I didn't think less of her for having such a tough time of it. On the contrary, the fact that she was able to quit Juul while I have not been able to quit porn makes me feel like I'm not as strong as her.
In any case, when I brought it up, she was surprised, but very supportive, although we've rarely brought it up since then. There have been a few times where she "caught me" (came up to the bathroom while I was in it and I awkwardly stepped out) and she only lightly teased me about it and left it at that. I appreciate her being so cool about it, but I think it might help my own cause if I told her something like "no, I really need to quit. It's not okay if I do this anymore."
The hard thing is the prospect of coming clean to her every and any time I slip up. I don't think she understands just how dependent I really am on it. I think that would shock her a little. But trying to quit on my own, with nobody IRL that I'm accountable to if I slip up, is proving not to be very successful.
Porn addicts with partners, how have you handled this issue? Do you tell them any time you slip up? Have you found just that fear of having to come clean to them a strong deterrent in itself?
In any case, when I brought it up, she was surprised, but very supportive, although we've rarely brought it up since then. There have been a few times where she "caught me" (came up to the bathroom while I was in it and I awkwardly stepped out) and she only lightly teased me about it and left it at that. I appreciate her being so cool about it, but I think it might help my own cause if I told her something like "no, I really need to quit. It's not okay if I do this anymore."
The hard thing is the prospect of coming clean to her every and any time I slip up. I don't think she understands just how dependent I really am on it. I think that would shock her a little. But trying to quit on my own, with nobody IRL that I'm accountable to if I slip up, is proving not to be very successful.
Porn addicts with partners, how have you handled this issue? Do you tell them any time you slip up? Have you found just that fear of having to come clean to them a strong deterrent in itself?