Day 1:
This is my second attempt at journaling here and I've lost count of the numerous times I have tried to quit porn. I am not a religious guy but I am praying that this is successful attempt at staying sober that will set me free. I am 37 years old, British but living in Germany and I am struggling not really with porn per say but with online chat rooms and roleplay. As these addictions seem to be supplemented by porn at time this seems the right place for me to document my struggle, my journey and my ambition to be free of these issues. My main ambition: to never use these sites again or to engage in the unhealthy behaviours that I know are damaging me mentally and physically and stopping me from fulfilling my potential and living a happy life.
I guess I am also rebooting, I want to give my body and mind a rest from the extended sessions of edging, masturbation and online escapism I have been engaged with for so long. I know this has affected me and distorted my view of people and the world around me. I wanted to change that. I am reluctant to go into so much detail right now, as I have been here before. But I will be posting every day without fail, in an attempt to keep myself accountable to reflect on my struggles and to figure out how I got here. I think things will become clearer as time goes on and I will detail actual events that are significant in gettting me here. All I can say right now is that this is a start. I am 1 day sober, I haven't masturbated, been online or looked at porn or images and really I have had no desire to. I have been busy today though with work and right now I am too exhausted to do anything so this might be the overall reason. However. I am pushing myself to write this post despite my fatigue as I want it to symbolize something important: my determination to overcome this challenge once and for all.
I am grateful today that I have made a start. I am seeking information, advice and strategies to do things differently than I have before. New approaches will help but I know first and foremost, I need to break the pattern of isolation I have created for myself and seek out healthy ways to be around people. I know my urges and desire to engage online, to take on different personas and act out different scenarios are multi-faceted in nature. On the one hand, I am looking to escape. Day to day life can be tough for me, I am shy, low in confidence and self-esteem and suffer with anxiety and depression. The chatrooms I visit offer a false sense of comfort and they also waste so much of my time. Time I could be using for so many more positive things. Secondly, I know my engagement in these activities represents a thirst and hunger I have for real connection. Sadly I am searching for this online and in all the wrong places when I should be making real connections with the world around me. Just knowing my reasonings for this behaviour is helpful and gives hope to overcome. I do have a fear though that when things get tough or I have a bad day, I will revert back to this behaviour and relapse, which could lead to binging. I am scared I will not be able to catch myself in the moments that this happens. This I have to be mindful of and pay attention to. For now though, I am positive and I have made it through the first day, I am thankful and grateful for that! I desperately want there to be more days like this as I work hard towards healing .
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This is my second attempt at journaling here and I've lost count of the numerous times I have tried to quit porn. I am not a religious guy but I am praying that this is successful attempt at staying sober that will set me free. I am 37 years old, British but living in Germany and I am struggling not really with porn per say but with online chat rooms and roleplay. As these addictions seem to be supplemented by porn at time this seems the right place for me to document my struggle, my journey and my ambition to be free of these issues. My main ambition: to never use these sites again or to engage in the unhealthy behaviours that I know are damaging me mentally and physically and stopping me from fulfilling my potential and living a happy life.
I guess I am also rebooting, I want to give my body and mind a rest from the extended sessions of edging, masturbation and online escapism I have been engaged with for so long. I know this has affected me and distorted my view of people and the world around me. I wanted to change that. I am reluctant to go into so much detail right now, as I have been here before. But I will be posting every day without fail, in an attempt to keep myself accountable to reflect on my struggles and to figure out how I got here. I think things will become clearer as time goes on and I will detail actual events that are significant in gettting me here. All I can say right now is that this is a start. I am 1 day sober, I haven't masturbated, been online or looked at porn or images and really I have had no desire to. I have been busy today though with work and right now I am too exhausted to do anything so this might be the overall reason. However. I am pushing myself to write this post despite my fatigue as I want it to symbolize something important: my determination to overcome this challenge once and for all.
I am grateful today that I have made a start. I am seeking information, advice and strategies to do things differently than I have before. New approaches will help but I know first and foremost, I need to break the pattern of isolation I have created for myself and seek out healthy ways to be around people. I know my urges and desire to engage online, to take on different personas and act out different scenarios are multi-faceted in nature. On the one hand, I am looking to escape. Day to day life can be tough for me, I am shy, low in confidence and self-esteem and suffer with anxiety and depression. The chatrooms I visit offer a false sense of comfort and they also waste so much of my time. Time I could be using for so many more positive things. Secondly, I know my engagement in these activities represents a thirst and hunger I have for real connection. Sadly I am searching for this online and in all the wrong places when I should be making real connections with the world around me. Just knowing my reasonings for this behaviour is helpful and gives hope to overcome. I do have a fear though that when things get tough or I have a bad day, I will revert back to this behaviour and relapse, which could lead to binging. I am scared I will not be able to catch myself in the moments that this happens. This I have to be mindful of and pay attention to. For now though, I am positive and I have made it through the first day, I am thankful and grateful for that! I desperately want there to be more days like this as I work hard towards healing .
x