Finally getting the help I need

[indiana]

Hey Adam, I've read through all your posts and want to say thank your for sharing and you're in the right place.

I know how hard it is. I've been trying to get past this for years, literally, and here I am still working on it. It's so easy to get down and feel defeated. What's been a huge help for me was reading Gary Wilson's eBook 'Your Brain On Porn' I just read it two days ago and think I'll actually re read it again tonight. It helped me see how what I've been going through is LITERALLY AN ADDICTION, it's not weak willpower or a flaw, it's a brain change that leads to complusivity, lack of control, and repetition of behavior that doesn't serve you. Check it out.

Also, get a web blocker AND accountability software.  K9 is a porn blocker that helps to limit what's out there, X3Watch is an accountability program that will share your internet activity with a friend.

http://www.amazon.com/Your-Brain-Porn-Pornography-Addiction-ebook/dp/B00N2AH8NW

I love that picture you shared about the bowl being more beautiful after being broken, that's very powerful stuff.

Here's to us all being filed in with gold someday.

 

[AdamH312]

Thanks very much indiana and Username. I want to be free of the shadow of addiction that is over me. I don't have much of a real life social life as most of my friends live abroad so I have to keep with them on a PC. That isn't really ideal lol. I hope this year to push myself out more and meet with physical friends which will probably help my confidence a lot.

Thanks indiana for the suggestion of the web blocker. I hope I can eliminate any chance of temptation. I feel that this site is the best place to attempt getting off PMO due to the great support network it has.

Also I found this if anyone wants to read it. I found it interesting: http://www.majorleaguedating.com/reasons-stop-masturbating-jacking-off-jerking-off-and-fapping/

 

[Fappy]

Lots of inspiration in these posts!
A poisonous addiction just like any other. Except this one creeps up unawares. No immediate outward symptoms like smack or meth addiction. But its always been hovering around us, back there where we cant see it. And when it strikes we dont even notice.
Terrifying.
This forum is a life saver, literally.

 

[Out_of_The_Pits]

First thing congratulations on getting started. I can't say it's easy but its definitely worth it. I am in a very similar circumstance myself and thanks to quitting porn and my other addictions I am much more emotionally balanced. When I was hooked I genuinely thought I was bipolar or borderline because my mood swings. Really it's not the porn that does this but the way you use it. I often relied on it as an emotional escape from my problems. Cutting yourself off from porn will force you to learn to deal with your problems and recover. That's why we feel so bad when we quit. Our crutch is gone.

I found the key to getting better is to stop letting your emotions bully you in real life. Your actions now will define your future emotions. If you face your fears habitually they will subside over time and you will become strong. This applies in all aspects of life. So when your emotions tell you to sit on the couch when you want to go out just go out. Tell your depression to take a hike.

When they become hard to face remember emotions are neither real or rational. They won't and cannot kill you. They cannot do anything. taking action like they aren't there at all will cause them to reduce.

 

[AdamH312]

Thanks for all the support its greatly appreciated. The fact is I want to get rid of Porn for good and although I slipped up again today, I am not so downcast about it cause I have figured out what the issue is and I can get round it.