34 years old suffering from PIED

[Dude09]

Hi everyone,

I’m a 34 years old healthy man but I’m suffering from PIED for atleast 2 years now. I started watching porn at age 15 and I had my first physical interaction with a real woman at age 28. Even in that interaction, I would play porn to get aroused and then ask her to perform oral sex on me. I never faced any erection problems at that time but later on I started having problems. My current situation is as below:

- No urge to watch porn anymore. Got bored of porn
- Don’t get sexual thoughts very often
- When I get sexual thought, I get really good erection but both my thoughts and erection fade away soon
- I wake up with a very firm erection (morning wood) everyday but it goes away as soon as my thoughts kick in
- No wet dreams in a very long time
- I try hard to grip on porn fantasy during sex but if I can’t, I lose erection.
- No urge to masturbate and when I try, I can’t masturbate without porn. I lose erection in my own hand. I don’t feel horny enough for masturbation.
-In sex, I lose erection in my gf hand, mouth or even vagina

I started soft reboot 2 months ago (with my gf making me have Orgasm) but I’m still facing all those problems mentioned above so I have decided to go hardmode for atleast a month. I have taken my gf into confidence.

My question on this forum would be, do you think hardmode will help me? Shall I do hardmode for a longer period of time? Also do men of my age group get wet dreams? Anything else I should do?

Any feedback, suggestions or advice will be welcomed. If anyone can relate to my situation, please reach out to me, I would love to hear about your experience.
Cheers!

 

[otanerferguson]

Heey @Dude09 ,

First of all congratulations, you are definitely on the right track!

In my opinion, holding off on orgasm for a good number of sex sessions helps you not fall into the deadly flatline you are experiencing right now. In my case, doing hardmode, I was having regular erections and libido on day 32 so I decided to start having sex with my gf, now wife, without orgasm. Everything was going great, so I decided to orgasm on day 52. I fell into a flatline that lasted over 55 days. It was like starting over. No libido, powerful ED, lots of frustration, negativity and fights with my wife. Completely unable to perform at work. I was able to have sex again only on day 107 and I held off on orgasm at least for 10 successful sessions, which turned into a couple of months while I waited for my wedding night. It's been good ever since. You can read my story here.

Any contact with your GF helps you rewire to real women, but in my opinion, orgasm will hold you back so just penetrate, but don't orgasm for a few months. She can orgasm all she wants. Beware that this is something that is hard for them to comprehend. They kinda need to see you cum for the universe to be in balance, but tell her it will be great in the long run. We decided after our failure, that sex for me would only mean penis in vagina. No titty f*cking, no BJs, no handjobs or anything that resembled the act of masturbation, lest the PMO pathways got activated again. We've only started to get more creative now, one year later.

Also, try these vagus nerve exercises for your flatline. They might help.

Three months is still early in the recovery process. I was only able to have sex normally and regularly without fear of ED on day 152--so six months in--and I am only starting to enjoy it and feel it's more pleasurable than the anticipation porn provides now--a year later. So take your time. Neural pathways are real biological structures that take their time to remap, just like roots and plants take time to grow. I am the first to recognize that this is easier said than done, because while you are living it, it seems like there is no end in sight. But there is, don't worry.

Just don't ever, ever, masturbate to or watch porn again. And that includes Instagram Hotties, Escort ads, lingerie catalogues. A few months back, I watched a reggaeton video that was playing on a tv for background music at a dinner party and got aroused with the girls in it. Went home to have sex with my wife (not even masturbation) and I fell into a two-week flatline that resolved itself after I did those vagus nerve exercises (I don't know if it was a coincidence, but I now recommend them left and right for the flatline). The thing is that those dancers probably stimulated the old porn pathways. That powerful a drug.

Oh, and there are times when I get MW, other times when I don't, but whenever we want to have sex, the dick is ready to go. I hardly ever have wet dreams, but I sometimes do. Especially when my wife is ovulating or when we've gone too long without having sex (that is nature trying to preserve the species heheh). Since I no longer masturbate at all, they are definitely more frequently than ever in my life, but they come and go. Don't sweat it.

You and your girlfriend are on the right track and if you are able to maintain the course for the rest of your life, you'll be having amazing enjoyable sex in no time. In the great scheme of things, 6-ish months is nothing compared to a lifetime of happiness.

 

[Wonder]

Hi everyone,

I’m a 34 years old healthy man but I’m suffering from PIED for atleast 2 years now. I started watching porn at age 15 and I had my first physical interaction with a real woman at age 28. Even in that interaction, I would play porn to get aroused and then ask her to perform oral sex on me. I never faced any erection problems at that time but later on I started having problems. My current situation is as below:

- No urge to watch porn anymore. Got bored of porn
- Don’t get sexual thoughts very often
- When I get sexual thought, I get really good erection but both my thoughts and erection fade away soon
- I wake up with a very firm erection (morning wood) everyday but it goes away as soon as my thoughts kick in
- No wet dreams in a very long time
- I try hard to grip on porn fantasy during sex but if I can’t, I lose erection.
- No urge to masturbate and when I try, I can’t masturbate without porn. I lose erection in my own hand. I don’t feel horny enough for masturbation.
-In sex, I lose erection in my gf hand, mouth or even vagina

I started soft reboot 2 months ago (with my gf making me have Orgasm) but I’m still facing all those problems mentioned above so I have decided to go hardmode for atleast a month. I have taken my gf into confidence.

My question on this forum would be, do you think hardmode will help me? Shall I do hardmode for a longer period of time? Also do men of my age group get wet dreams? Anything else I should do?

Any feedback, suggestions or advice will be welcomed. If anyone can relate to my situation, please reach out to me, I would love to hear about your experience.
Cheers!

Go hardmode for min 3 months ...no orgasm ,no porn, no sex!!! Try it, it s the single chance for healing . After 3 month if you feel beter try 1 orgasm per week or less .After you feel beter try more but only sex! No porn! Try to eliminate every posibilities of pmo !! Instal porn blokker aply ! Every orgasm reduce erection capabilities this is my experience this shit not a game !!!

 

[Dude09]

Heey @Dude09 ,

First of all congratulations, you are definitely on the right track!

In my opinion, holding off on orgasm for a good number of sex sessions helps you not fall into the deadly flatline you are experiencing right now. In my case, doing hardmode, I was having regular erections and libido on day 32 so I decided to start having sex with my gf, now wife, without orgasm. Everything was going great, so I decided to orgasm on day 52. I fell into a flatline that lasted over 55 days. It was like starting over. No libido, powerful ED, lots of frustration, negativity and fights with my wife. Completely unable to perform at work. I was able to have sex again only on day 107 and I held off on orgasm at least for 10 successful sessions, which turned into a couple of months while I waited for my wedding night. It's been good ever since. You can read my story here.

Any contact with your GF helps you rewire to real women, but in my opinion, orgasm will hold you back so just penetrate, but don't orgasm for a few months. She can orgasm all she wants. Beware that this is something that is hard for them to comprehend. They kinda need to see you cum for the universe to be in balance, but tell her it will be great in the long run. We decided after our failure, that sex for me would only mean penis in vagina. No titty f*cking, no BJs, no handjobs or anything that resembled the act of masturbation, lest the PMO pathways got activated again. We've only started to get more creative now, one year later.

Also, try these vagus nerve exercises for your flatline. They might help.

Three months is still early in the recovery process. I was only able to have sex normally and regularly without fear of ED on day 152--so six months in--and I am only starting to enjoy it and feel it's more pleasurable than the anticipation porn provides now--a year later. So take your time. Neural pathways are real biological structures that take their time to remap, just like roots and plants take time to grow. I am the first to recognize that this is easier said than done, because while you are living it, it seems like there is no end in sight. But there is, don't worry.

Just don't ever, ever, masturbate to or watch porn again. And that includes Instagram Hotties, Escort ads, lingerie catalogues. A few months back, I watched a reggaeton video that was playing on a tv for background music at a dinner party and got aroused with the girls in it. Went home to have sex with my wife (not even masturbation) and I fell into a two-week flatline that resolved itself after I did those vagus nerve exercises (I don't know if it was a coincidence, but I now recommend them left and right for the flatline). The thing is that those dancers probably stimulated the old porn pathways. That powerful a drug.

Oh, and there are times when I get MW, other times when I don't, but whenever we want to have sex, the dick is ready to go. I hardly ever have wet dreams, but I sometimes do. Especially when my wife is ovulating or when we've gone too long without having sex (that is nature trying to preserve the species heheh). Since I no longer masturbate at all, they are definitely more frequently than ever in my life, but they come and go. Don't sweat it.

You and your girlfriend are on the right track and if you are able to maintain the course for the rest of your life, you'll be having amazing enjoyable sex in no time. In the great scheme of things, 6-ish months is nothing compared to a lifetime of happiness.

Thanks for such a great reply and insights. Very helpful. I hope I’m able to post a success story soon.

 

[Dude09]

Go hardmode for min 3 months ...no orgasm ,no porn, no sex!!! Try it, it s the single chance for healing . After 3 month if you feel beter try 1 orgasm per week or less .After you feel beter try more but only sex! No porn! Try to eliminate every posibilities of pmo !! Instal porn blokker aply ! Every orgasm reduce erection capabilities this is my experience this shit not a game !!!

Thanks mate. Yes I think I should go hardmode for atleast 3 months