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Escapeandnevercomeback

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Looking good, man! That number right there for me is the unicorn, I've never even come close to it, I don't know how it is to be more than 4 months porn free but the more people escape it, the better. Because I am so fuckin sick of this porn world. It's been fuckin me up for 20 years, man, it's had complete control over my head since I was in fuckin elementary school. That's how sick of it I am, especially when my streak is only 2 days long. I'm so sick of porn that, if my biggest enemy that I wouldn't wish any joy to was 4 months porn free, I would actually be happy and wish him to escape because the more of us around here escape, the better. The statistics are for sure not in our favor. Of course I wouldn't know the statistics and I don't even know who can gather statistics like that, of porn addicts who are still clean, but I have this instinct feeling that they are not the majority. I have this feeling that the majority of addicts still go up and down. Or are completely beaten into submission every time, like me. So, capitalize on that streak and escape, don't go back to zero because you are too far away to go back, climbing from 0 to 100 days is as slow at it sounds, it's technically easier to go from 120 to 130 than it is to go from day 1 to day 100. I'm rooting for you to escape. I'm only rooting for you for now cause I'm not having that much success to root for myself as well.

Best, man!
 
Blondie

Blondie

Respected Member
Day 129

Thanks @Escapeandnevercomeback.
Escapeandnevercomeback said:
Looking good, man! That number right there for me is the unicorn, I've never even come close to it, I don't know how it is to be more than 4 months porn free but the more people escape it, the better.
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Well it is something you CAN do, and we all can, but we have to find our own method and will to do it, and maybe more importantly, the REASON of why we're doing it.
Escapeandnevercomeback said:
The statistics are for sure not in our favor. Of course I wouldn't know the statistics and I don't even know who can gather statistics like that, of porn addicts who are still clean, but I have this instinct feeling that they are not the majority. I have this feeling that the majority of addicts still go up and down.
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I don't know about this, but as you say, there is no statistics to prove that assertion, so it's hard to prove.
Escapeandnevercomeback said:
So, capitalize on that streak and escape, don't go back to zero because you are too far away to go back, climbing from 0 to 100 days is as slow at it sounds, it's technically easier to go from 120 to 130 than it is to go from day 1 to day 100.
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I will definitely keep going on. Thanks for the encouragement! Keep going yourself and never give up.

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Ezel said:
so proud of you my man, keep going champ, you inspire big time.
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Thanks @Ezel! Keep killing it brother.
 
Blondie

Blondie

Respected Member
Day 132
Body weight, who knows!

I've been thinking a few things these last few days after being free from school and all of its stresses. The good news is I graduated with flying colors and utterly killed it in something I never thought I could, thus, it feels great to have accomplished a big life goal of mine. Also, being away from this place because I was so busy helped me realize that I can get addicted to even good places like this just as easily as bad places (porn), and just the internet in general. A break has been has been really good for me.

Furthermore, I thought I'd mention something that I've been thinking about the last while. I haven't done a dick update forever now, in fact, well before my big relapse last fall. Before I relapsed I had come to the conclusion that in general, all of my thinking about that stuff just made it all the more worse than it actually ever was, thus, I haven't written about this in ages. For example, in the past, when I would try to have sex and it didn't work, I would come on here and announce that I was in a "flatline" and thus, self-declare myself as having a "problem", and last time I checked, whenever you "think" you have a problem, you do. Now I'm not saying that myself and any of you have never had a "real" flatline before, nor am I saying that this isn't a real deal or devastating to those who really have it for months at a time, however, what I am saying is thinking about this all the time, becoming obsessed with it, can just as much harm you as the very flatline itself.

For example, a few days ago I tried to have sex in the morning, and well, it was definitely flat and a no-go. However, unlike before, I didn't come on here and tell you all I had a "problem" and that it's time to "brace" myself for a long flatline. No. I just calmly laughed and told myself it could be a number of things; stress, maybe drinking the night before, the fact that I'm not 20 anymore, or yes, possibly even a flatline, but who really knows? And sure enough, I tried for it again in the evening and it worked perfectly, and in the end, we did it 3 times over the course of 24 hours, something which is pretty rare for us to be honest. Thus, if I had declared myself in a "flatline" that morning, I would have never tried for it in the evening. Once again I'm not denying the devastating effects this can have on you guys, however, I do believe our over focusing on this aspect of our recovery is a PRODUCT of our recovery. We're obsessed with sex, hard-ons, orgasms and if any of these "don't work" even for one moment, we declare ourselves fucked, which I just don't think is healthy.

Life isn't about sex, nor orgasms nor your fucking hard-on.

Of course, all of these are great things and we should hope they generally work when we need them to, however, overly thinking about this is a product of the very reason we're here in the first place.

Sometimes
- you might just be too tired
- too drunk
- too stressed
- too fucking old
- too depressed because you're in a "flatline"
- too human to have a 24 hour porn-boner
- too (you fill in the blank)

This is life, the life of a non porn-user.

What if we told ourselves these things firstly before we declared ourselves in a "state of emergency"? How would that change our perspective on all of this? I think it would do us a world of good. I know it sure has for me.

Peace

swimmer97 said:
GJ on 131 days. Keep trucking it brother!
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Thank you @swimmer97. Keep killing it yourself brother. :cool:

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First_step_thousand_miles said:
Man, 6 months is really just around the corner! Keep crushing it my friend, it's a true honor to be on this journey with you!
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I can't wait @First_step_thousand_miles, thank you! It's been an honor as well.

Let's keep moving friend.
 
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First_step_thousand_miles

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Blondie said:
Day 132
Body weight, who knows!

I've been thinking a few things these last few days after being free from school and all of its stresses. The good news is I graduated with flying colors and utterly killed it in something I never thought I could, thus, it feels great to have accomplished a big life goal of mine. Also, being away from this place because I was so busy helped me realize that I can get addicted to even good places like this just as easily as bad places (porn), and just the internet in general. A break has been has been really good for me.

Furthermore, I thought I'd mention something that I've been thinking about the last while. I haven't done a dick update forever now, in fact, well before my big relapse last fall. Before I relapsed I had come to the conclusion that in general, all of my thinking about that stuff just made it all the more worse than it actually ever was, thus, I haven't written about this in ages. For example, in the past, when I would try to have sex and it didn't work, I would come on here and announce that I was in a "flatline" and thus, self-declare myself as having a "problem", and last time I checked, whenever you "think" you have a problem, you do. Now I'm not saying that myself and any of you have never had a "real" flatline before, nor am I saying that this isn't a real deal or devastating to those who really have it for months at a time, however, what I am saying is thinking about this all the time, becoming obsessed with it, can just as much harm you as the very flatline itself.

For example, a few days ago I tried to have sex in the morning, and well, it was definitely flat and a no-go. However, unlike before, I didn't come on here and tell you all I had a "problem" and that it's time to "brace" myself for a long flatline. No. I just calmly laughed and told myself it could be a number of things; stress, maybe drinking the night before, the fact that I'm not 20 anymore, or yes, possibly even a flatline, but who really knows? And sure enough, I tried for it again in the evening and it worked perfectly, and in the end, we did it 3 times over the course of 24 hours, something which is pretty rare for us to be honest. Thus, if I had declared myself in a "flatline" that morning, I would have never tried for it in the evening. Once again I'm not denying the devastating effects this can have on you guys, however, I do believe our over focusing on this aspect of our recovery is a PRODUCT of our recovery. We're obsessed with sex, hard-ons, orgasms and if any of these "don't work" even for one moment, we declare ourselves fucked, which I just don't think is healthy.

Life isn't about sex, nor orgasms nor your fucking hard-on.

Of course, all of these are great things and we should hope they generally work when we need them to, however, overly thinking about this is a product of the very reason we're here in the first place.

Sometimes
- you might just be too tired
- too drunk
- too stressed
- too fucking old
- too depressed because you're in a "flatline"
- too human to have a 24 hour porn-boner
- too (you fill in the blank)

This is life, the life of a non porn-user.

What if we told ourselves these things firstly before we declared ourselves in a "state of emergency"? How would that change our perspective on all of this? I think it would do us a world of good. I know it sure has for me.

Peace


Thank you @swimmer97. Keep killing it yourself brother. :cool:

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I can't wait @First_step_thousand_miles, thank you! It's been an honor as well.

Let's keep moving friend.
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First of all, congrats on graduating brother!!! Huge accomplishment

Second of all, thanks so much for sharing on that point -- a penis is not a machine and it may not work 100% perfectly for anyone all of the time. But the very fact that things didn't go great in the morning but you just shrugged it off and then it worked perfectly in the evening for multiple go's is excellent proof that you are recovered and it's ok to not be perfect on this crap sometimes. Worrying about problems just makes it worse -- whereas often just shrugging it off actually lets a lot of 'problems' resolve themselves. Love your philosophy man, it makes a ton of sense. I know a guy in his mid-20s (at the time at least) and this guy is jacked and incredibly fit from a cardio sense, but even he mentioned there were like 5-10 times his dong didn't work with girls in the past year -- so really it's not a big deal at all. Love your attitude and honesty, keep it up brother
 
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