>> If you think of something "erotic" or think of a woman you are attracted to or fantasize about someone, can you feel yourself getting erect just by thinking or fantasizing?
I actually try NOT to dwell on this, though I do see photos of very pretty women every day -- they get thrown at me via advertising. Not naked, but quite attractive in every way.
>> Have you had sexual dreams in the last 8 months?
That's a good question. Yes, probably. The only one I can remember - because it gave me some hope -- was pretty subtle. A woman came up from behind me and started kissing me on my neck and that DID start to physically arouse me because I woke up about half mast from it.
>> Have you tried to have sexual intercourse?
No. This is a bit of a touchy subject, as my wife really shows no interest in sex, though if I asked she would ... this is part of the issue, though. I don't want to be just "obliged". And I also haven't told her about this, but the time is coming. She is significantly older than I am, and just doesn't have the urge. When we were first married, she wore me out!
>> Can you get erect if you gently touch your penis when taking a bath for example?
No.
>>Thinking about something sexual with a woman or fantasizing gives you an erection?
No.
>> At what age did you start PMO?
Well ... that's a good question. If you read my bio (my first post) you'll note that I saw magazine porn as early as 7th grade. And I pretty much used that (but didn't need it, it just increased the dopamine) even ... probably into the last 10 years, but less and less often as video porn became seriously available. I'd say that was sometime in my early to mid 40's. By my late 40's, and it did come on relatively suddenly, I was having issues keeping it up long enough for even me to orgasm, much less her. In the last 10 years, it got to the point where not even porn could do it.
>> Have you been to the doctor or urologist or psychologist to rule out other possible causes of Erectile Dysfunction?
Yes. When I first talked to my doctor about it 10 years ago she said "it's psychosomatic". She was right, but I thought she was just blowing it off. (I know better now). And she didn't really offer any help until a few years later she said "do you want a prescription for Viagra". So I tried it, but didn't have a lot of luck with it. A few years later, my urologist prescribed me Trimix. At first, it was a pretty guaranteed hard on ... although I found you did need SOME stimulus to get it started (the injection does start a physical reaction but if nothing gets you aroused it won't happen. If you inject more get ready for a 12-18 hour erection that ... well it really isn't any fun after about the first couple of hours. It almost hurts. (pro tip: cardio exercise will eventually get rid of it)
Here's how I know it's not physical, and that my doctor was right 10 years ago. I still get plenty hard night wood in bed, for no apparent reason (a doctor could explain - I've read about it but forget what causes it). If I were physically unable to get an erection, this would not happen. I am clearly physically able to get an erection. Just not in response to sexual stimulus. That does seem to come in waves. I'll go for periods where it happens a lot, and periods where it happens much less frequently.
My thought was this would only be about 6 months ... I thought that when I could be aroused by touch or by a sexy photo (not explicit) that that would be the point I could try real sex again, and of course this can only be with my wife and I'm going to have to work that out.
At any rate, I have quit porn. I had told myself it would make me last longer, that it would keep me "in practice", that if I didn't do it I would DEFINITELY become disfunctional. Dead wrong. We weren't designed to have that kind of dopamine rush available to us any time we want. It screwed me up.
really helpfull and gives motivation to keep going. Currently on 10 days no pmo (new record) and tryung for 6 months.
