I’m 56, married for over 20 years, I have a beautiful wife some 8 years younger and very desirable and I love her. Our sex life has had ups and downs, but in the last 7-8 years was getting very good, regular, enjoyable and stable. A bit experimenting every now and then. My wife is very understanding and curious. She doesnt mind if I watch P, in fact we have watched it together on occasion.
We usually have sex once a week, sometimes two. Its kind of something to look forward to. But I do have a sex drive which is a little more than that, and sometimes I travel for business, so have been doing PMO just to get off. Sometimes strip clubs or worse,
So everything just dandy, right? But no, it isn’t
Some 3-4 years ago I started noticed sign of ED. It just didnt get that hard, or started taking a while to get there. Even though I felt turned on. So managed to get myself some Viagra and could perform just great using that. But then I kind of couldn’t really without or was concerned to try without. And it got worse. Didnt tell my wife about as we were still OK.
I also starting feeling less sensation. I helped doing no PMO a day or two before our regular days to be extra turned on. But after having some fails, I finally told my wife that I wanted to go and get checked out because I felt it was failing to get hard when I wanted to, and was getting worried about prostate etc. She was very understanding, and I got to the doc. Got checked, levels were wrong and went through the whole thing incl MR scan. Nothing wrong, phew.
But also got my doc to prescribe some Cialis, and have been using that for around a year.
But still have the desensing, still have issues getting started, and not getting as hard as I want.
On the PMO side, things that use to turn me on, doesnt. Then found other stuff to watch, that doesnt quite work either. But ended up spending hours watching stuff that didnt really get me going, but I kind of felt I HAVE TO in order to get to O. Watching alone didnt do it, but watching and MO did.
And after reading here and other places I figured out whats wrong. PIED, desensing.
This has to stop. I want my sensing back. I want to be able to get hard just looking at my wife getting undressed as I used to. Hell, I want to get hard just thinking about her getting undressed,
So 3 days ago I decided to quit PMO. And kept it up since then.
I am not quite sure MO is OK. I thought that might be OK as long as I thought about real women and past experiences. Maybe I should quit that to, and only go for sex with my wife. Not quite decided there. So had a go at that yesterday. Probably a bad idea, so think I will park that too.
I want back to where I was. Seems to work for other guys here, so my journey begins….
We usually have sex once a week, sometimes two. Its kind of something to look forward to. But I do have a sex drive which is a little more than that, and sometimes I travel for business, so have been doing PMO just to get off. Sometimes strip clubs or worse,
So everything just dandy, right? But no, it isn’t
Some 3-4 years ago I started noticed sign of ED. It just didnt get that hard, or started taking a while to get there. Even though I felt turned on. So managed to get myself some Viagra and could perform just great using that. But then I kind of couldn’t really without or was concerned to try without. And it got worse. Didnt tell my wife about as we were still OK.
I also starting feeling less sensation. I helped doing no PMO a day or two before our regular days to be extra turned on. But after having some fails, I finally told my wife that I wanted to go and get checked out because I felt it was failing to get hard when I wanted to, and was getting worried about prostate etc. She was very understanding, and I got to the doc. Got checked, levels were wrong and went through the whole thing incl MR scan. Nothing wrong, phew.
But also got my doc to prescribe some Cialis, and have been using that for around a year.
But still have the desensing, still have issues getting started, and not getting as hard as I want.
On the PMO side, things that use to turn me on, doesnt. Then found other stuff to watch, that doesnt quite work either. But ended up spending hours watching stuff that didnt really get me going, but I kind of felt I HAVE TO in order to get to O. Watching alone didnt do it, but watching and MO did.
And after reading here and other places I figured out whats wrong. PIED, desensing.
This has to stop. I want my sensing back. I want to be able to get hard just looking at my wife getting undressed as I used to. Hell, I want to get hard just thinking about her getting undressed,
So 3 days ago I decided to quit PMO. And kept it up since then.
I am not quite sure MO is OK. I thought that might be OK as long as I thought about real women and past experiences. Maybe I should quit that to, and only go for sex with my wife. Not quite decided there. So had a go at that yesterday. Probably a bad idea, so think I will park that too.
I want back to where I was. Seems to work for other guys here, so my journey begins….