Why Generation-Y Is So Willing To Abandon Relationships And Be Alone (article)

[Gary Wilson]

New article by Nikita Coulombe, co-author of the Demise of Guys TED book - http://www.amazon.com/The-Demise-Guys-Struggling-ebook/dp/B00850HTHO/ref=sr_1_2?ie=UTF8&qid=1337714079&sr=8-2

Why Generation-Y Is So Willing To Abandon Relationships And Be Alone
http://elitedaily.com/life/why-generation-y-is-so-willing-to-abandon-relationships-and-be-alone/

 

[CrazyGopher]

I thought the most interesting stat from the article was this: up to 60 percent of Japanese men in their early 20s and 90 percent of young Japanese women now say they prefer single life over marriage.

The article speculates that America might be headed in the same direction, with women becoming more interested in career and less interested in family.

 

[Viper]

I thought the most interesting stat from the article was this: up to 60 percent of Japanese men in their early 20s and 90 percent of young Japanese women now say they prefer single life over marriage.

It speculates that America might be headed in the same direction.

Japan is a very densely populated island.
Big island but even bigger population.

But I wouldn't be surprised about your conclusion on USA because as we speak, more and more Americans are either not getting married or they are waiting longer to have children and such.

 

[Card]

The point about masculinity is an interesting one. Contrary to the reactions from some of the commenters on that post, I think the point is about society's opinions on sexuality (nothing to do with the opinions of a specific gender).

I wonder what a less "emasculated" bunch of men would look like though. The stereotype I think of is men "leading," "taking charge," "being chivalrous," and so on. Not exactly the picture of empowered anything in my head.

Taking charge of your own life though, that's certainly important. Perhaps men turning to porn and video games stems in part from an overall feeling of "lack of control." Where women can feel empowered and have their "sisters" rooting for them to "overcome," men have less of a support structure by default. That is my impression anyway. Ironically, I say it in one of the places where we do have a support structure.

But the point is, fantasy worlds give us a way of pretending that we're in control. Luckily, we can establish real control by saying "no" to those same fantasies. Control could explain fear of commitment, too - anxiety about agreeing to a largely collaborative life experience that you share with another person.

 

[Viper]

Taking charge of your own life though, that's certainly important. Perhaps men turning to porn and video games stems in part from an overall feeling of "lack of control." Where women can feel empowered and have their "sisters" rooting for them to "overcome," men have less of a support structure by default. That is my impression anyway. Ironically, I say it in one of the places where we do have a support structure.

Seems like playing video games gets linked to being a loser. Not an opinion but rather an observation.

 

[indiana]

It's great that PMO addiction is coming further to the public consciousness, even if only in small blurbs.

 

[Gracie]

I guess what stood out for me was the fact that the hours of porn and video game use were equal to the month of February.  A whole month!  Amazing! 

But given that my husband's porn use made him less interactive with others, then is video game a reaction to the withdrawal that is part of porn or is it the other way around?

 

[Chaos Mind]

All I can guess is that if we keep calling men chauvinists and sexists and relegate the only acceptable expression of masculinity to be growing mustaches, chances are, a lot more video games will get played, a lot more porn will get watched and people will become less interested in actual sex and more attracted to fantasy, too.

Nicely said, but what is society supposed to do? Pay women less for the same work they do? Keeping them from living a life they want just so men don't feel frustrated? I doubt this is the way a "modern society" needs to go. In my opinion backwards is never an option.

The symptoms are described very well in this articles. But I clearly don't share most of the reasons and suggestions.

 

[indiana]

Chaos, I totally agree. We need to redefine how masculinity is manifested, not go backwards and remove power from women. I also agree that a guy wanting women, isn't being a chauvinist, but it's all in execution. Objectification and being a man don't need to be synonymous.

 

[Madnote]

Some of you might find this 7 minute report interesting.

Sexodus: Why are young men abandoning women and relationships.?
http://youtu.be/uwPFnvniA7w

It is basically about how third-wave feminism, which has nothing to do with women's rights, has destroyed the traditional male/female dynamic. Leaving males frustrated with relationships and sexual issues, so they give up on women and turn to porn and video games. I tend to agree with those conclusions. I also believe environmental and nutritional concerns play a factor. Things like BPA and the amount of birth control hormone found in the municipal water supplies in large cities are shrinking male genitalia, lowering sex drives, feminizing men and hyper-feminizing women...which may cause reproductive and breast cancer in women.

Just my two cents.