It is so true. Unfortunately most people probably think of performance. They can let go this performance fear after some age if porn is not part of their life.
Getting back to reality
- Thread starter SajithKR
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Day 101: Wow crossed a major milestone. Thank God and all the people in the forum who have assisted and inspired me to achieve this. I bow down to all of you. I am sure I would have not reached this stage without this website and your support. The battle is won, but the war continues. There are others in the family that I need to pull out, but it is hard as long as they don't acknowledge that they have a problem.
Day 133: Days are going by as ordinary days. There is no urge to return to PMO or any view any sexy material. I mostly watch 13+ age group videos to be safe. Not very interesting for 40+ adult, but it is much better than the guilt and shame. It is a change of mid-set. Not sure if this approach is feasible for younger people. Sometimes I think that my sex urge has gone down a lot. No issue with performance, I even had sex with my wife today, but I am not thinking about sex. This is ok for a married guy like me, but this might freak out young guys.
Day 193: I should be feeling great that I have not seen porn for 193 days, but I am not. I now got this habit of staying up late in the night and watching some endless series till I get tired. Else I am struggling to sleep. I only used to watch family-rated shows, but last night I did derail a bit and watched some romantic movies and scrolled through to just watch the nude scenes. I would have gone all the way to stroke my dick, but at least I resisted that. Not sure what I was thinking. After going through all the trouble of reaching this stage. Today I feel a bit horny and there is an urge to release and difficulty working. Maybe it is because I did not have sex for the last 1 month as there is a misunderstanding with my wife. Some mild quarrel. Even before, I did not feel so great about staying away from porn. The only benefit I could feel was that I was not having the urge for PMO and no guilt and reduction in self-esteem due to it. It felt normal to not watch Prorn. I still hope I don't derail. It is too difficult to come out of it if I break this. So I am back. Writing a post helps me to understand what is good for me and what I really want. PMO is an urge, but I really don't want that life.
Do you think you might have a phone addiction? You might try limiting your time on your phone to minutes at a fixed time each day. See if your anxiety and restlessness drop. Not right before bed.