Hi —
I’m 28 and struggled on and off with porn since I can remember. I lost count years ago of the amount of times I wasn’t able to orgasm during sex or lost an erection.
Throughout my life I’ve always had women wanting me and everyone was always (and still is) confused why I never took advantage of it. I could’ve had quite a body count AND some great relationships.
I avoided and still avoid relationships with women because I’m detached and am only thinking if they remind me of the porn I watch and can give me that same feeling.
I can enjoy sex and get quite hard - I’ve come that far since the early days - however I still cannot orgasm during sex and my dick doesn’t feel all that amazing inside of a woman.
Since very early on, I somehow ended up watching BBW porn and I just went farther and farther down that road into some gross shit, and of course that translates into my real sexual life, even though in real life, I’m not actually attracted to big women. I think I am, I bring one home, and I realize I’m not actually attracted to them, and that pattern has continued for like a decade. It’s so ridiculous.
I have a strong actual libido, as in legitimately hard and needing release, so stopping masterbating does not work for me. I’ve tried NoFap before multiple times and it just makes the issue worse. The cravings build and the relapses are wild. And also not sure if it’s all the great for my mental and physical health to hold back when I really need to legitimately cum.
So I’m going to quit porn and masterbate using no stimuli.
My semi-confirmed theory from past attempts about fantasizing is that at first, my brain will automatically go to fantasizing about the porn I watched, but eventually, that will fade if I stop looking at it. The same way that in meditation, you let thoughts come to the surface and pass, or when you’re getting over something traumatic or sad, you need to let those memories come to the surface so that they can pass. I actually think this is key in my quitting, because it consciously avoids the suppression and therefore that evil secret craving I’m trying to hold back. I’ll tackle it head on instead. If this turns out to not work in this way, I’ll change my method.
So, I’m about a week in so far, and I’m going to stop forever. Will keep this updated in the process.
I have a business to build in 2023. I have relationships to foster. I have a life to continue building. I don’t have the tolerance for this problem anymore.
Onwards!
I’m 28 and struggled on and off with porn since I can remember. I lost count years ago of the amount of times I wasn’t able to orgasm during sex or lost an erection.
Throughout my life I’ve always had women wanting me and everyone was always (and still is) confused why I never took advantage of it. I could’ve had quite a body count AND some great relationships.
I avoided and still avoid relationships with women because I’m detached and am only thinking if they remind me of the porn I watch and can give me that same feeling.
I can enjoy sex and get quite hard - I’ve come that far since the early days - however I still cannot orgasm during sex and my dick doesn’t feel all that amazing inside of a woman.
Since very early on, I somehow ended up watching BBW porn and I just went farther and farther down that road into some gross shit, and of course that translates into my real sexual life, even though in real life, I’m not actually attracted to big women. I think I am, I bring one home, and I realize I’m not actually attracted to them, and that pattern has continued for like a decade. It’s so ridiculous.
I have a strong actual libido, as in legitimately hard and needing release, so stopping masterbating does not work for me. I’ve tried NoFap before multiple times and it just makes the issue worse. The cravings build and the relapses are wild. And also not sure if it’s all the great for my mental and physical health to hold back when I really need to legitimately cum.
So I’m going to quit porn and masterbate using no stimuli.
My semi-confirmed theory from past attempts about fantasizing is that at first, my brain will automatically go to fantasizing about the porn I watched, but eventually, that will fade if I stop looking at it. The same way that in meditation, you let thoughts come to the surface and pass, or when you’re getting over something traumatic or sad, you need to let those memories come to the surface so that they can pass. I actually think this is key in my quitting, because it consciously avoids the suppression and therefore that evil secret craving I’m trying to hold back. I’ll tackle it head on instead. If this turns out to not work in this way, I’ll change my method.
So, I’m about a week in so far, and I’m going to stop forever. Will keep this updated in the process.
I have a business to build in 2023. I have relationships to foster. I have a life to continue building. I don’t have the tolerance for this problem anymore.
Onwards!