Guys, rebooting sounds so simple. Obviously it is challenging, but what I am SLOWLY figuring out is there is just so much more to it than I thought. Everyone says stay away from PMO. Your problems will be solved and you'll live happy ever after. After almost a year of rebooting I have little to show for it. Learning from my own experience and troubles i have found there is a lot to it. People say get wired to real women. So now that i wasn't watching porn i was eye fucking women on the street. I thought if just physically looking at them and getting myself turned on that I was making progress. They are real women, in real life, so whats the problem? Apparently that isn't the proper route. This is just one example of what I'm talking about. I don't know how to think. I don't know when it is acceptable 'to get turned on' if you will. I just don't get it! They say there is no simple solution to this problem and everyone has to do it their own way. In other words there is no list of do's and don'ts. But i really wish their was. I don't know what to do and not to do other than not to PMO. I want to rewire but i don't know how. I don't want to get a GF and not be able to have sex with her. I don't think she would really appreciate that either.
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Hi franky jr,
one year without porn is a good accomplishment. So I assume you're not addicted anymore meaning you don't have the urge to watch porn or fantasize about things you've seen in porn, right?
Are your Dopamine receptors functional? They are if you don't MO regularly but still have no symptoms of depression.
What about Libido? Do you sometimes have the desire to have an O?
If the answers are yes the last step is rewiring. You are afraid that your GF will be upset or disappointed but many guys who rewired say that their GFs were understanding. Don't care about "performing".
You need to O through real sex in order to condition your brain to chase sex to get the dopamine rush. You can tell your GF the truth about your ED or blame other things like alcohol until you make it.
one year without porn is a good accomplishment. So I assume you're not addicted anymore meaning you don't have the urge to watch porn or fantasize about things you've seen in porn, right?
Are your Dopamine receptors functional? They are if you don't MO regularly but still have no symptoms of depression.
What about Libido? Do you sometimes have the desire to have an O?
If the answers are yes the last step is rewiring. You are afraid that your GF will be upset or disappointed but many guys who rewired say that their GFs were understanding. Don't care about "performing".
You need to O through real sex in order to condition your brain to chase sex to get the dopamine rush. You can tell your GF the truth about your ED or blame other things like alcohol until you make it.
Dude.. It's so much more difficult than that. 1, I don't feel fully rebooted.. I have major anxiety. I don't think mydick is big enough, that I'll be able to perform, that I am even a normal human being.. I literally drove home drunk tonight because my buddy was railing this girl and I thought to myself there was no way in hell I could do that.. I want to die. There is no point in life if u can't reproduce/mate/have a marriage/ or anything! I sound weak. I know I do.. But holy shit. Idk what to do anymore. Nothing works.
How do I know if my dopamine receptors are back to normal? Like is that a real question? Idk!!! I'm just the guy that didn't get the happily ever after. Gabes journey is a cake walk compared to this crap. I'm a perfectly healthy, good looking 22 year old guy with a broken brain. Fuck it
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Hold on. You can make it.
You're telling yourself stories because of bad expiriences. Someday you're having sex and feel happy and proud and you won't understand how you could talk like you're talking right now.
At the first opportunity to have sex jump right in. I read some of your posts and the last time you had sex was a long time ago. Try again. Fail until you succeed. Don't stop.
It's alright to sound weak. Don't sweat it.
But you should feel lucky you didn't kill anyone while driving home drunk. What kind of person are you? You want to make sure a girl orgasms but you're endagering lifes of others? Think about that.
You're telling yourself stories because of bad expiriences. Someday you're having sex and feel happy and proud and you won't understand how you could talk like you're talking right now.
At the first opportunity to have sex jump right in. I read some of your posts and the last time you had sex was a long time ago. Try again. Fail until you succeed. Don't stop.
It's alright to sound weak. Don't sweat it.
But you should feel lucky you didn't kill anyone while driving home drunk. What kind of person are you? You want to make sure a girl orgasms but you're endagering lifes of others? Think about that.
There's plenty of things you can do, Franky.
Have a look at my last post in my journal. You will find it with no big problem. I wrote about my own experience of what helped me on my path.
Your path is your's, of course. But we addicts share so many common problems. I can say with certainty that you're no different than the average guy here.
You need to get educated fast. You gotta read and understand everything that YBOP has to offer. You gotta get on this forum and read, read, read stories of other guys, look for similarities, understand you are one of many, and that there is a method to get out of it. Because there is.
So get to work, bro
because I can assure you about one thing - no one can win this fight for you but you. And you can.
Have a look at my last post in my journal. You will find it with no big problem. I wrote about my own experience of what helped me on my path.
Your path is your's, of course. But we addicts share so many common problems. I can say with certainty that you're no different than the average guy here.
You need to get educated fast. You gotta read and understand everything that YBOP has to offer. You gotta get on this forum and read, read, read stories of other guys, look for similarities, understand you are one of many, and that there is a method to get out of it. Because there is.
So get to work, bro
because I can assure you about one thing - no one can win this fight for you but you. And you can.