chiefmitch88
Active Member
HP21,
Hang in there. You're doing great. Showing some great resolve in stacking up days like you are. However, what I am going to tell you might sound counter-intuitive. Stop marking off the days and hours. If you truly mean to quit porn there is no finish line. This is a lifestyle change. For me, dwelling on say sober made it seem like I was stuck in a room with nothing but a clock and a computer. Discipline without compassion for yourself will get you nowhere. Learn to love yourself. Rather than focusing on avoiding porn start thinking how great your life could be if you began dedicating all this free time to ventures that would enrich your life. You are not your mind. You just filled your mind with an objectifying viewpoint and hours of erotic material. An urge or a flashback is simply evidence of that. You are the master of this vessel and you don't need to be compelled to dash yourself upon the rocks for some immediate gratification. You always have a choice.
Peace
These two links really helped me to put things into perspective and got my reboot on the right track. I hope they help you.
http://www.3pgc.org/photos-videos/details/?m=1167
http://www.yourbrainrebalanced.com/index.php?topic=15558.0
Hang in there. You're doing great. Showing some great resolve in stacking up days like you are. However, what I am going to tell you might sound counter-intuitive. Stop marking off the days and hours. If you truly mean to quit porn there is no finish line. This is a lifestyle change. For me, dwelling on say sober made it seem like I was stuck in a room with nothing but a clock and a computer. Discipline without compassion for yourself will get you nowhere. Learn to love yourself. Rather than focusing on avoiding porn start thinking how great your life could be if you began dedicating all this free time to ventures that would enrich your life. You are not your mind. You just filled your mind with an objectifying viewpoint and hours of erotic material. An urge or a flashback is simply evidence of that. You are the master of this vessel and you don't need to be compelled to dash yourself upon the rocks for some immediate gratification. You always have a choice.
Peace
These two links really helped me to put things into perspective and got my reboot on the right track. I hope they help you.
http://www.3pgc.org/photos-videos/details/?m=1167
http://www.yourbrainrebalanced.com/index.php?topic=15558.0