Hylden
Member
About a week ago I experienced the same wake-up scare anyone dealing with the problem has had. Yet I am still in doubt about what my situation is right now and I thought it might be helpful to ask for the experience of others to be able to judge my own situation and to know what to expect. The question is: how much weight does either anxiety or porn have in the combo that makes up my ED. I have to say I only experienced it for the first time last week, since I met a girl and it was the first time in a couple of years I was having real sex.
I am a nervous type, especially when it comes to new relationships. With my previous girlfriend I was really nervous the first time and had some difficulties the first couple of minutes, but even the first time sex went okay... Porn usage was more or less the same as now (minus 3 years).
This time around I got a full erection when cuddling and kissing/touching. But once we were about to have sex, the boner disappeared. I freaked out. She asked if it had something to do with her... but was sweet about it, luckily. I really want to hit it off with this amazing girl, so I'm really frustrated and want it to 'heal' asap.
As of my porn usage: I have been using Porn Hub for about 7 years. Although I got tired and kept looking for 'better porn' it never got to the point where I got into really disturbing shit or feeling 'nasty' after finishing. I would say it was like 5 times/week that I took the time for... well. Sessions would be around half an hour.
Symptoms are what I described earlier. Right after my experience, I wasn't able to get it up, even with porn! The day after I did get morning wood and was able to finish without (fantasizing about) porn. Did it once more a few days later to test it out. It doesn't feel as good and doesn't take as long, strangely. So morning wood is still present, but somewhat weaker.
After heaving read about the benefits of quitting porn, I really do want to quit. But as short as I am into abstaining from PMO, I couldn't help myself a few times, but I try to build op courage. I'm hoping I might be lucky and only have mild PIED... thus being able to reboot my libido faster. I'm just hoping to 'make it up to her' soon.
I am a nervous type, especially when it comes to new relationships. With my previous girlfriend I was really nervous the first time and had some difficulties the first couple of minutes, but even the first time sex went okay... Porn usage was more or less the same as now (minus 3 years).
This time around I got a full erection when cuddling and kissing/touching. But once we were about to have sex, the boner disappeared. I freaked out. She asked if it had something to do with her... but was sweet about it, luckily. I really want to hit it off with this amazing girl, so I'm really frustrated and want it to 'heal' asap.
As of my porn usage: I have been using Porn Hub for about 7 years. Although I got tired and kept looking for 'better porn' it never got to the point where I got into really disturbing shit or feeling 'nasty' after finishing. I would say it was like 5 times/week that I took the time for... well. Sessions would be around half an hour.
Symptoms are what I described earlier. Right after my experience, I wasn't able to get it up, even with porn! The day after I did get morning wood and was able to finish without (fantasizing about) porn. Did it once more a few days later to test it out. It doesn't feel as good and doesn't take as long, strangely. So morning wood is still present, but somewhat weaker.
After heaving read about the benefits of quitting porn, I really do want to quit. But as short as I am into abstaining from PMO, I couldn't help myself a few times, but I try to build op courage. I'm hoping I might be lucky and only have mild PIED... thus being able to reboot my libido faster. I'm just hoping to 'make it up to her' soon.